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Permalink Reply by Lucy Brady on April 4, 2016 at 6:30pm

I have been reading everyone's posts for a while now...At first I thought this site was for an "only" child. No one really speaks of their siblings...I have 4 sisters and 1 brother, but since my mom passed in December of last year...I have no one in my family. All of them have left me dazed and confused. We are all close in age, and I thought I knew my family...I don't know one single one at all..they have done cruel things, and if that is their grief...they will need more than understanding...is anyone on here going through something like this?

Permalink Reply by Rebecca on April 4, 2016 at 6:59pm

Hi Lucy- I am an only child, but I don't think this is just for us- I am having the same problem with friends of 10 years plus... I thought I knew them, but with my grief that have all started to act weird and have also done cruel things. It is as if I never had them as friends and it is so isolating and scary at a time like this when you are going through your own grief. I will say this for family- my dad and I have started fighting and getting angry at each other after my mom passed and it has just escalated more and more to the point where we are having lots of issues... I think everyone grieves so differently and the stress that can come out is sometimes insane- I snap at people much more now and cry easily, get my feelings hurt and have been acting like an insane basket case. I wish I could help you more, but I do know that grief manifests itself in ways that might show us who is truly there for us when we need them, during this time I would like it if people were just kind, but that doesn't always seem the case. I will be praying for you and hoping this gets better as time goes on!

Permalink Reply by Monica on April 4, 2016 at 8:59pm

Im sorry you had to feel so alone. Yes i am the 4th of 3 brothers & a sister. My sister and I have struggled to get through this difficult time. 22wks since we lost our beloved Mother suddenly. It really made things harder to accept, watching some of the wrongs that our brothers did. I feel alone just because my sister, 4yrs older than me, just cant speak up. I understand why,,,but it still makes me feel alone in my quest for closeness at a time you would think, we all should find strength in. I pray for you and extend my sincere condolences.

Permalink Reply by Megan on April 19, 2016 at 4:01am

Hi Lucy, I am so sorry for your loss. I empathize with what you are saying. Navigating the grief of others, as well as your own, is like a mine field. My siblings definitely didn't react in the way that I imagined and honestly I have not reacted in the way I thought I would. Grief does funny things to people. I hope that you can find a way through this. I will be thinking of you and your family. xx