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Permalink Reply by Amanda on April 4, 2013 at 6:40pm

Yes, Eliza! My mom will be gone 8 months on the 10th. I had a break down today, worse than usual. I was going trough her purse. I seen her handwriting and referrals to dr appts she never got to go to. I sobbed for about 10 minutes. I still cry everyday but I almost feel like its getting harder now than when she first passed. Maybe because its part of the grieving process and its sinking in that this is final. I'm here if you ever want to talk. I understand. I might just vent right back and not have the right words but I'm here:)

Permalink Reply by Emily on April 5, 2013 at 2:13am

Yes, I lost my mom Dec 27,2012 so I know what you are going through. I don't go out a lot, but I also have other things going on, so for me it isn't just grief. I've been told by people who have lost loved ones that it takes time. It helps to cry, and to talk to others, and medication is helpful for some people. I miss having a mom and feeling normal. I keep wanting to talk to her, tell her what I'm reading and doing etc.

Permalink Reply by Kisha on April 5, 2013 at 7:23pm

Eliza, I am also dealing with bouts of depression.  My mom has been gone eight months. I see a therapist and she told me from the beginning that if at anytime I feel like I can't do basic things (taking care of my kids, household chores, normal routine things) then I may want to look at medication.  I did start medication for depression because I get in those moods of not wanting to do anything and not having energy.

Permalink Reply by Eliza on April 7, 2013 at 8:32pm

Thanks everyone. Some days are so hard. I think I'm going to talk to my doctor about this.

Permalink Reply by Rachel Lynn Schuler on December 19, 2013 at 1:56pm

I'm dealing with depression right now hun, more because of my health and my boyfriend being away....its been an awful time....its hard to get motivated, I at least want to be on the computer and haven't gotten so bad that I dont go out, but I find myself too busy and wearing myself out....I've been crying alot but its cause I'm not well....and thats normal, I hope I get some answers soon as to why I'm feeling so bad...4 months is still soon hun for your loss....I didnt feel right for at least a year, it varies from person to person but I do advise you talk to a therapist or counselor if you can, and join our chats on here, that helps me alot....you can talk to me anytime, just friend request me, or find me on here.....I would love to talk with you and help you through this, I miss my mom terribly and lost her about 3 years ago....please take care

Rachel

Permalink Reply by Eliza on March 11, 2014 at 11:45am

Hi Everyone,

Thank you for your advice and thoughts about this. I sought out help soon after this post and started seeing a grief counselor and taking medication. Both helped tremendously. I weaned off the anti-depressant once I became pregnant, and so far, things are OK. I had feared the grief and the depression would return, but while I still miss my mom, the grief/sadness do not feel overwhelming. I can function each day and I don't feel like I'm wading through my emotions. But it was absolutely imperative that I got help at the time; the grief was so all-encompassing that I could not handle it alone. I encourage anyone who is experiencing depression to talk to a doctor or a counselor. It helped me a lot when I needed it. Wishing you all peace.

Permalink Reply by Carolynn Michelle Streater. on June 3, 2014 at 3:06am

I'm sorry for your loss. It's been over a year sents I lost my mother. And now I feel depressed. It hurts I just want my mom back. If you need to talk please message me.

Permalink Reply by Kisha on August 4, 2014 at 12:55am

It has been two years since I lost my mom and I do battle depression because she's gone. I seeked counseling right after but stopped after 6 months. It was helpful though. I also was put on medication for my depression then stopped taking it because I thought it wasn't working. I've recently started back on the medication and it's working for me. I'm still told that my depression is normal.

Permalink Reply by Iris Kuhn on November 3, 2014 at 3:37pm

What you are experiencing is very normal. Everyone deals with grief differently but the stages of grief are still there. My mother passed 4 months ago and I have felt the numbness, the denial, anger. At the time I had no clue what or why things were happening to me and I couldn't explain it. I have moments which entails bouts of crying for just a small reminder of her. I have not reached total acceptance and may not for a while. Something comforting to me is a yellow butterfly. One flew around her grave at her funeral and we saw one once again at the restaurant. Now I see a yellow butterfly and know in my mind she is watching over me.

Permalink Reply by Traci Ann on January 23, 2015 at 10:26pm

  I have been asking myself that same question. I had a panic attack while in the shower tonight. I haven't had one in over a year. But I just lost my mom on the 14th of October. So its been a lil over 3 months. I am still missing her dearly and I wish that she wasn't gone. So how do you tell the difference between grief and depression. I was depressed badly before I left the state I lived in and now I am not sure if my grief is causing my depression to come back because I miss my mom so much. I just wish she didn't die as soon as she did. But I was okay with letting her go so she could be with my dad again but now I feel like I am regrating that choice and should I be? Even though I think she is happy to be with her Lord and Savor plus Her Husband. Any advice I am open to any. thanks in advance.