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Comment by Denise Frappollo on May 7, 2013 at 7:05pm

Monique and gramaokie thank you for the kind words.  My Dad passed from Cirrhosis, we do not know from where.  I spent 8 years as a ward secretary in an intensive care unit.  I knew the disease and I had seen it claim lives before.  When Mom and Dad first told me I went home and locked myself in the bathroom and cried.  I knew, it took the disease a year and a half from the first major complication to take him.  Every time he had a complication  knew he was closer, as I have said before I got to tell him how much I loved him, how wonderful a Dad he was, apologize for my thickheaded behavior and tell him how much I appreciated all he did for me as my father.  I kept telling him I loved him every time I left.  Did it make it easier??  No, as you both said the heart does not listen to reason.  JB I dread fathers day too, hugs to you all.

Comment by gramaokie on May 7, 2013 at 4:00pm

Denise, I'm sorry your "friend" was insensitive.  My daddy was 84 yrs old; had been on dialysis 14 yrs; lost a kidney to cancer; and other problems.  He died from sepsis infection following surgery for bladder cancer.  Did I know he was declining?  Yes.  Did it make the loss of the Rock of our family any easier?  Absolutely not.  My brother was 58 when he died from a seizure 8 weeks before Daddy.  We had no idea he was going to die.  The only thing that made his death more difficult was that I didn't get to say good-bye.  I worked with survivors and families of the OKC Murrah Building bombing in 1995.  I learned there is no right or wrong way to grieve and there's not a time limit.  So, my heart goes out to you as you remember the day you dad went to heaven. 

jb:  I agree about father's day.  I wish I could just hide.

Comment by dream moon JO B on May 7, 2013 at 3:41pm

Comment by dream moon JO B on May 7, 2013 at 3:05pm

im dreding fathers day dennise i get sic of sean the carsd in th shops i do

im even get emails oabot it i am 

i no whot u mean as well abot peple  sayin hurtful thngs or sillyy thngs  i do ist lik thy hav fealing but thy can hurt our fealings i get sic of peple sayin get over it its easy th 1s it say hav nevr lost any 1 all i no it hrts like hell

Comment by Denise Frappollo on May 7, 2013 at 12:42pm

May 20th will be Dad's first Angel Day, gramaokie I love the reference, because I believe in my heart that my Dad is an angel watching over us.  Mom and Dad would have been married 50 years this past September, like your Mom, my mother is lost without him.  I miss my father incredibly, just this week I was talking to a childhood  friend (30 years) who had inquired as to how we were doing.  Her reaction to my pain was heartbreaking, she was so cold and said "its not like he was killed in a car accident, you knew he was dying".  Yes I did, but the heart still aches for him, and her words only hurt me.  I had always been there for her, when her father was diagnosed with Luekemia on Christmas Even, I dropped everything to sit with her and give her support.  When he has his heart attack, again I was there for her.   My Dad used to say she was a good friend to me, right now... the pain she has caused does not feel like a friendship gesture.   She still has her Daddy, I do not.  I dropped everything to support her when her father was ill, when it was time for me she was too busy or was reminding of the fact that the disease would take him.  In fact she even brought up the subject of how she felt when her father was diangosed.  I so wanted to remind her that she still has her father.  I feel the loss now as much as I did the day his suffering ended.    Until one loses a parent, one does not understand the pain the heart feels.  I miss you Daddy, right now my heart aches more than ever for you. 

Comment by gramaokie on May 7, 2013 at 11:35am

Today is my daddy's 3rd Angel Day.  It still hurts a lot.  My brother died 8 weeks before Daddy.  The last 3 yrs have changed me significantly.  Yes, the world has gone on, but it's such a different world.  My parents were married 2 weeks shy of 64 yrs.  Now, my mom is lost without him.  My surviving brother lives in another state.  So, I'm responsible for helping Mom.  That's fine except the pain I see in her from loneliness and she's also in physical pain @ 83 yrs old.  I am blessed in many ways with the love of a close family and friends.  It's just difficult without Our Rock, my Daddy. 

Comment by Sarah Sun on May 6, 2013 at 11:22pm

I miss my daddy so much. I'm only 22 and I never expected him to be gone so soon. He lived in another country and I hadn't seen him in years but I was the center of his world. I haven't been able to even see where he is buried yet. It is so hard when I think of all of the things I wish I had said to him while I had the chance :( I think about him every day.

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on May 1, 2013 at 8:27am

Yesterday my Dad's motorcycle driven away by it's new owner.  I knew it would be tough but I didn't expect to be so bad.  It felt like a part of me was leaving with it.  The bike was Dad's pride and joy, it meant a lot to him.  I took many rides with Dad both on the back of the bike and also riding my own along side of him.  Still feeling a little  numb this morning.  The couple that bought it said that they would pick up where Dad left off and ride it with joy.  Miss you Dad and love you!

Comment by dream moon JO B on April 30, 2013 at 3:13pm

dad i miss u wish u wear still hear 

i  no if u wear hear u wud of likt ths song

link http://vimeo.com/53156934 gabrielle aplin 'the power of love' embed code

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on April 27, 2013 at 3:05pm

Monique,

That is a great idea and I agree that your Dad would want you to continue taking care of the garden.  I'm sure it will also be healing for you.  I have found honoring my Dad is very rewarding.  He always participated in the MDA motorcycle events so we have made donations in his name and memory.  Take care.

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