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Permalink Reply by gramaokie on August 13, 2010 at 5:13pm

Dean: I lost my brother March 9. My mom found him in the bathroom in his apartment. Apparently, he had a seizure and struck his head hard enough to cause brain trauma. My daddy died on May 7. He was 84 years old, but it was very sudden. He developed septicemia??
To answer your questions: What you're experiencing is normal from what I've learned from online research, reading, and my counselor (who I was seeing before any of this happened). I can relate to how overwhelming one loss is - never mind two. It is hard to grieve times two. I find talking does help me. It's comforting for me & my mom to talk about my brother & Daddy. There are grief support groups in most communities that would give you an opportunity to let your feelings out if you're not comfortable doing that with family. I will admit that I spend a lot of time talking with God - Praying for the strength to get through this pain that is worse than any I could have ever imagined. Of course, you can share here also.
My condolences to you.

Permalink Reply by Tabatha K. on August 16, 2010 at 5:04pm

Dean - I know what you are going through. My dad passed away 10/17/2009 & I have found myself going through such an emotional roller coaster. I am sure that my husband finds it almost intolerable to be around me at times. I sometimes feel as though I am supposed to "get over it" by everyone or that everyone that I mention something to gets bored with hearing about my loss.