ronaldwes:

Hi, I hope someone can relate.  I lost my dad and my pet companion this past year.  It has been a devastating time.  My dad had a place out in the country with a little house and a pond that we use to always go the dogs and my dad.  It was their favorite place.  Since they passed away, I have never been the same.  I have no desire to go there anymore.  It is just too painful and emotional.  I have very vivid pictures in my mind of being there.  When they died something in me died also.  I know some of my family may see things differently and would like to see me go over there again.  I don't and can't do something for someone just to make them feel good.  I know that I will never be the same and that's ok.  That just shows how much we loved them.  I am not being selfish by not going, it is just too painful and devastating emotionally.  I am what I am, no more no less.  I know some people say give it time.  I think that is one of those myths also.  It may help a little, but I know that it will never be what it once was.  I hope I am not alone in this.  I hope someone can relate.  Sometimes people just have to move or change environments just to survive.  It is the hardest to get my family to relate. We are all individuals. I hope that makes sense.