My dtr was 8 months old when my husband died.  He had cancer and ended up taking his life.  My daughter is now 11 years old, and I have never told her that he committed suicide or how he actually died.  There just never seemed to be the right time or the right age.  Now she is in middle school and though I think she is mature enough to hear and understand, I worry how this indformation might affect her emotionally if I told her now, so I kind of think I should wait until she is older, but then I worry that when I do tell her that she will hate me for holding it back from her.  Does anyone have any suggestions or thoughts about this?  Should it be my little secret forever?