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Permalink Reply by adriana gonzalez on August 6, 2011 at 1:12am

So sorry for ur lost amy.. I guess yes our situations are differen but we both have a lot of pain.. I was with my husband for 15 years .. We have 2 kids :( .. Is just so hard .. Every day I pray god to help me .. To cure my pain.. How are u?? .. Tomorrow I start a therapy session.. I'm looking forward for it . I always breakdown but mi kids help me by making me see that I can't leave them alone

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Permalink Reply by Maura Simms on August 6, 2011 at 10:28am

I felt the same way; I remembered when I had a dislocated leg and for 6 months, and he nursed me back; I would give anything to have a dislocated leg again if I could still be sitting with him. I don't know that there is anything better but I try to be grateful for the experience and that God is not done with our lives, so hang in there.  Try to look toward beauty in art, music, nature and maybe our whole worlds will be bright again someday.  Just try to keep busy doing positive things; others who have walked before us promise it gets better with time and patience.

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Permalink Reply by Georgia Garrison on August 9, 2011 at 7:18pm

Dear Adriana,

I am so sorry for your loss of your husband.  I lost my darling husband a year ago and am still soooo lonely and feel unprotected, as you.  But I can tell you, after a year, it does get better, in that I do not cry every day and I am able to have some happiness with family and friends, unlike last year.  But you have all of my sympathy and compassion as I know what you are going through.  I had to literall;y take each day and just hoped for the best.  but it is difficult and I loved him more than life itself..  But one day you will wakeup and feel just a bit better and from thereon, it comes in bits and pieces.  I will pray for you as that is what finally helped me, prayer for my husband's soul and for my own health.  You try this, if possible, and as I said you will start to feel a bit better and better.

Your Sister in Grief,

Georgia Garrison

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Permalink Reply by Annette Dominguez on August 11, 2011 at 8:31am

Hi Adriana, I lost my husband on 1/1/11 and I am still crying most days. I miss him so much. We were married for 30 years. I just take it day by day. I don't know what the future holds and I don't look foward to it either. I don't have much joy right now. It is enough to just get through the day. I know God has a purpose for me but I don't know what it is yet. I loved him so much. I know I am rambling but just want to get this out of my system. I read somewhere that sometimes it takes 2 to 3 years to feel better. I know I will always love him and miss him and I am hoping that in time the anguish will not be there.

 

Annette

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Permalink Reply by Sally on August 26, 2011 at 12:13pm

I lost my husband March 30, 2009 and it still hurts, will it get better? I don't know, but I know he is my guardian angel and watches over all of us. I'm lucky to be able to get signs from him when I'm feeling blue or dream wonderful dreams of him. I know I we'll be together again someday, for now he needs me to stay strong for the sake of our children which he adored very much. He was a great father, a great friend, a great husband,  and the greatest love of my life. Nothing here on earth will come close, but I have to try as I know we all do. Be strong ladies, they want us to be happy. If not for them for their sweet children that have been left without a dad. 

If anyone is interested in reading something interesting that has helped me so much you got to read "We Don't Die" and Walking In The Garden Of Souls" by George Anderson also go to his  facebook account I think you ladies will love what people like us are going through. I wish you all the best, take care of yourselves, it hard but they'll be there for us to give us strength. Never doubt that.

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