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Permalink Reply by Jane Lock on March 12, 2016 at 9:15am

My kids each wrote something and were able to say it in front of a big audience, I think because they were still in shock. I wrote down what I would like to say and had the Rabbi read it for me, because there was no way I could do it. I took Ativan just to get through it without passing out. I have no help or support of visits from 99% of the people who came to the funeral. So, just do whatever makes you feel ok, Your wife knows all of your feelings and love, and other people don't matter. 

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Permalink Reply by BillT on March 12, 2016 at 12:11pm

Jason,

I hear you!  There is no way I could have held together to speak at my Sweetheart's memorial service.  The Catholic church also frowned on eulogies.  I wrote what I wanted to say, printed copies, and placed them inside the programs that I had printed.

Do what you can.  Don't worry about doing any more.  No one there is hurting like you are hurting.

Prayer to you Jason.

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