Recently lost my Dad to lung cancer

I would like to talk to others who have experienced the loss of a parent. My Dad is so alive in my mind that I just expect him to walk through the door when I'm at their house, even though I saw him suffer and him finally in no more pain. I miss him so much and have so much pain feeling like I should have been able to fix him and take away his cancer. I really thought he was going to beat it or live longer. It was only 8 months from his diagnosis that he passed.

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Permalink Reply by Kathy S McBee on March 14, 2012 at 8:47pm

I can relate to this. Both of my parents died in the last 2 years and both were taken by cancer. In December, my love passed away from lung cancer - 8 months after he was diagnosed. It doesn't seem to matter how old you are when your parents pass - they stay in your mind. And, like you, I thought my man would make it longer than he did. I'm glad I had time with all three before they moved on, taking care of their needs. I miss them all, yet I know they're not suffering any more. It's hard to know that, no matter what you did, it couldn't be enough to 'fix' them and have them with us. And, yes, I'm seeing how a home becomes just another house without them. It is painful - you're not alone.

Permalink Reply by Melissa Peacock on March 15, 2012 at 5:11am
Wow. You are incredibly strong to face all of this loss and especially 3 such imoportant people in your life. My prayers are with you.
Permalink Reply by gina cestodio on March 15, 2012 at 7:41pm
Kathy
Here for u if u wanna talk.  You experienced so much loss.  I am so sorry 
Permalink Reply by gina cestodio on March 15, 2012 at 7:39pm
Hi Melissa 
I also lost my mom almost 3 weeks ago to small cell lung cancer.  Also 8 months after she was diagnosed. It took 3 days of her being on comfort measures. It was the most painful thing to see.  I know what your feeling and here for u if u want to talk .  Gina
Permalink Reply by Susan Broadus on March 20, 2012 at 7:39pm
Hi Melissa, I lost my dad to lung cancer 10 years ago, and he lived 5 months after diagnosis, and I was at his bedside when he took his last breathe, but I was able to tell him I loved him and he squeezed my hand and took his last breathe, yes, it has been ten years and the first 3 or 4 were very hard but it does get easier, do you ever forget, NO...and that's ok, our parents raised us..we thought they would always be there but I know they are not but I know he is at peace and he did NOT suffer a lot..for that I am thankful....
Permalink Reply by Melissa Peacock on March 20, 2012 at 8:24pm
Susan,
Thanks for sharing. My dad had rectal cancer in 2002 and I'm so happy that he was able to beat that and walk me down the aisle and spend time with my child.
I heard a song by Miranda Lambert called Over You that describes my situation with him so closely that I cry so much when I hear it. Even through the tears it helps me feel better and to know that her husband, who lost his brother years ago, could write something that speaks so clearly to what I'm going through is a comfort.
You described it so right. I thought he would always be looking out for and protecting me.
I started a fire cooking dinner tonight and feel so dumb about calling the fire department, but I got absent minded for a moment. I'm definitely feeling lost.

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