My dad's passing causing me to doubt my faith

After my father's passing last week I started to have doubts about my faith. I miss him so much that I want to look forward to seeing him again when my time comes but then this ominous doubt creeps up in my mind wondering if all that most of us have been taught about heaven and an afterlife really doesn't exist? what if we simply live out our lives, then die and that's it. No survival of conscious after you die. It's upsetting me so much that I have been looking up info about near death experiences and any good science research supporting the existence of an afterlife. I come across a few but there are always those skeptics that debunk the possibility of an afterlife/survival of conscious beyond the body and it's making me really stressed out. It's like I want to focus most of my efforts to find that proof. It's literally making me sick.

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Permalink Reply by Dennis C. on June 22, 2012 at 7:16am
Cat,

A wise man once said

“ If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair. ” 

I agree. Truth about death, what happens when we die, what hope do we have for our dead loved ones, and other similar questions about life itself can bring us comfort. But it must be the truth.

What does the Bible really say? What does it really teach?

What if it taught us that when we die it is like going to sleep, and time will pass without any recognition. No suffering, no misery, no awareness even of how much our loved ones still living are suffering because of our death, we would just be asleep? But then it also teaches us that one day Jesus will call out to us and bring us back to life again, waking us up from our deep slumber, reuniting us with our loved ones, not in heaven or some mysterious place but right here on earth, in a paradise, where we will never have to die again, no more sickness, being together with everyone we love, forever.

If that is what the Bible really teaches, how would we feel? Would it bring comfort? It does to me, because that is what I believe.

No, it won't take the pain away, but my HOPE gives me reason to live, and a wonderful future to look forward to.

If there is anything that I can do to share some of that comfort with you please let me know, I would love to help you if I can.

Dennis
Permalink Reply by Mara on June 27, 2012 at 5:12pm

This is EXACTLY where I am right now, only it took me 7 months after his death to realize he isn't coming back. I truly believed he was going to be my angel on earth and I would be able to feel his presence. I haven't felt him at all. It is like being a child and those beliefs all of a sudden went away and I am realizing he is gone. He died. So painful, I know. Is a yucky place to be.

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