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Permalink Reply by Richard Rivera on November 6, 2017 at 1:13pm

Dear Bobby:

I really do feel the agony and suffering you’re going through.
I lost my wife December 2nd. We were childless. We had only each other.
I live alone. No friends not even a goldfish.
Despite your tradegy, you still have a son who so desperately needs you.
When we lose a beloved we wonder what anchors us still to this world? What’s left?
Well your son
You’re going to mourn and grieve for a while. But let no one tell you to “get over it.” We each grieve differently.
The hardest road is yet to come. The loneliness, the guilt at what you did or didn’t do. My god, you’ll feel so by yourself you’ll think you’re going mad.
But hold on. Hold on tight my friend. You have an anchor.
Your son. You’ve gotta hold on for him. Even as you grieve.
I was discharged from the hospital 3 days after my wife died. I was forced to go into the psych ward because they thought I’d hurt myself. Days later, discharged, it was midnight. No one would
take me home. It was late. Raining in an empty parking lot. I was poor ( still am) and facing eviction. No job. No family to help. I tell you, never had I felt I wanted to die to end my 15/7 agony of physical and mental pain. I made it home that night walked in to my apartment. I stared at the floor where my wife Annette’s body laid. Now an empty space. I’m still alone, with I’ll health and my medical insurance won’t cover a penny of it.

But you have a son. Care for him. Give yourself some forgiveness. None of us are perfect. That’s a myth.

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