Lost my son

I am 53 Years old.  my Son would have been 24 on August 14th. He died June 21, 2014. I can hardly stand my grief. Even with a strong faith, I find it is no comfort. I dont have any motivation anymore. time has stopped and I wish I had died too.  It was a motorcycle accident, involving only my son. no one saw it happen, and when found he was pronounced dead at the scene. He just got a job and his father offered the use of the bike to get to work. I didnt like the idea, it was a bigger bike than he was used to. the next day he was dead. The tears dont stop. nothing has meaning. I want to go to sleep and never wake up. will I ever be able to deal with this> how do people go on?

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Permalink Reply by Jean on July 21, 2014 at 11:16pm

One day at a time. At first one minute at a time.

Be gentle with yourself.

I lost my mother last year and it still hurts everyday.

There is a huge void in my soul now.

Permalink Reply by lissa ann tucker on July 23, 2014 at 12:29pm

the word "void" aptly describes what I feel right now. a loss so deep it is as if someone has burned a hole into my very being., and put a hot poker into my heart. I am sorry we both have to go through this grief. it is nothing I would wish on anyone. thankyou for listening.

Permalink Reply by Connie K on July 22, 2014 at 10:25am

Dear Lissa Ann

 I am so very sorry for your loss. I t is the hardest grief to deal with. I lost my only child, my son Daniel 19 months ago in a tragic accident. He was 17. The suddenness of it is devastating. I still so want him to walk in the door calling "Mom?" Oh where did my sweet boy go in a flash? I am sending you all the love and prayers that you will have the strength to go on and try to live your life as your son would want you to. Right now, your pain is so fresh, I know you are completely overwhelmed by it. But with love and support from friends ( all of us here are here for you) you will get through each day, sometimes lighter or hopeful, sometimes not but you are not alone. We all walk this rocky road wondering how we will make it to our journey's end. But I do believe our children's spirits live on and that we will be together again and hear of their amazing journey. Til then, just try to keep the memories alive and allow yourself to grieve however you need to. Hugs to you

Connie

Permalink Reply by lissa ann tucker on July 23, 2014 at 12:40pm

I am sorry for your loss as well. it is nothing I would wish for any one. I would have done anything for my boy, Rory. It is overwhelming. in the back of my mind I always was aware that any of us could lose someone we love, but when it actually happens it is too hard to bear.  I have a different faith than yours, and even though I cherish the knowledge that I will see Rory ressurected one day, it doesnt take away the devastating loss right now. I know Rory would want to be the first one to comfort me. He always had a fear of losing someone himself, and had recently gone on a trip with me to see his grandparents, because he feared thier age would claim them and he wanted to see them before it was too late. Who knew the goodbye would be in reverse. everyone in the extended family is suffering. I thankyou for extending your kind thoughts. how I wish wish wish things were different.

Permalink Reply by Steven Galvan on February 16, 2015 at 12:27am

Really sorry about your loss but life goes on and its better you fight for your son and get justice. I mean take legal experts advice and see how they can help you.

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