I lost my husband to terminal cancer 6 weeks ago.  Before we knew he was terminal we started IVF and had become pregnant, but during all the stress and emotional time of caring for my husband and realising he was dying I had a miscarriage.  It happened 2 weeks before he passed.  I feel I'm grieving for both him and our baby and it only seems to be getting worse.  Im 33 and know I can still try have a baby some day (we had no other kids - he couldn't have kids naturally as he first had cancer 6 years ago and chemo made him infertile) but I wanted a baby with him.  We have 2 embryo's left and I know its only been 6 weeks but Im so confused on how i feel about wanting his baby and using the embryos one day.  I miss him so much we were together 12 years.  

Has anyone else had this happen to them?    

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Thanks for the reply nnna. There is no time limit to my embryos - well ten years which is more than enough time to decide! Its just quite hard to work out how I'm feeling from one day to the next. Grief is a weird new thing for me. Sorry to hear bout your losses as well, hope your having more good days than bad.

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