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Permalink Reply by S Johnson on February 5, 2017 at 11:26pm

Thank you Anne. My mom's name is Anne and we are very very close.   I did have a talk with my mom (dad is very quiet) about some of what is happening and has happened with my brother's passing.  It was a relief and comfort for us both to share.  We are both considering counseling.  My parents are in their mid-80's and having a hard time with their grief and loss as well.  I just pray for us all.  My prayers and Blessings to you too.  Thank you for your kind words.

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Permalink Reply by Dennis C. on February 18, 2017 at 7:25am

S Johnson

Just a couple things.

Learn how to comfort one another. All of you need comfort. Each one of you have excruciating pain, but that pain comes from a different place....father, mother, sibling...these places are all so very different.

Each one of you need room for your personal emotions. In other words we each need the room to grieve in OUR own way...no rights or wrongs...just different.

What comforts one may pain another. So what do we do? If you personally focus on giving comfort to your mom and dad the way they need it...you can be comforted in the process.

1 Corinthians 10:24 — Let each one keep seeking, not his own advantage, but that of the other person.

2 Corinthians 1:3,4 — Praised be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of tender mercies and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our trials so that we may be able to comfort others in any sort of trial with the comfort that we receive from God.

So if your comfort comes from God (especially since you pray) you can then comfort them.

How can our comfort come from God? By seeing the Biblical HOPE for your future, and the future for your dear brother. The Bible promises a wonderful reunion for you. Just like this reunion:

Mark 5:41,42 — Then, taking the hand of the child, he said to her: “Talʹi·tha cuʹmi,” which, when translated, means: “Little girl, I say to you, get up!” 42 And immediately the girl rose and began walking. (She was 12 years old.) And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy.

That little girl,had died and was brought back to life and reunited with her parents....did you notice how they responded..."they were beside themselves with great ecstasy."

That is comforting.

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