Loss of my only son

I lost my only son , Naveen ( Kittu ) in a tragic accident on 6th March 2013. He was out walking in the evening with his earphones on  and was crossing an unmanned  railway track crossing in Ernakulam, Kerala , India when this happened. He did not see the second train coming from the other direction & his earphones prevented him from hearing others shouting out behind him.

Now me & my husband do not know how to go forward without our Kittu. He was so much a part of our lives for the last 22 years.

He was mature beyond his years and used to help me out when I was tensed. Now he is no more and life feels meaningless to us.

He was a sweet,mature boy who was loved by his friends, relatives  & teachers. He had just graduated with distinction as an engineer and was waiting to get his MS admission in the USA. Now his admission to three top universities in USA has come & we are without him- wondering what could have been.

Till March 5th, we were a happy family and now in a flash our lives have changed and our world has become topsy turvy.

Coping with this loss has been very difficult .I have not been able to sleep properly & his memories keep coming back to haunt me.

I believed in astrology which predicted a great career for him & us. This was all true till that night of March 6th. Now I have lost faith. Even now none of the astrologers we consulted can find why this happened.

Kittu -  I still believe that   a miracle ( just like your unexplainable , sudden separation from us  ) will bring you back & this hope is what is taking me forward. I see God in front of me now & he is guiding me to your coming back. I am keeping all your things ready for your return.

We have adopted two kittens who have made life a little bit more bearable. One of them,  Neelu is very sensitive & keeps coming to me when I cry & gives me comfort.

Me & my husband keep wondering why we are being punished like this, when we have not done any harm to anybody. I do not understand why people who have done no harm to others have to suffer.

I hope parents do not have to suffer loss of their children , like me.

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Permalink Reply by Michelle H on July 31, 2013 at 12:29pm

Mini, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. These things don't make sense, do they? I lost my only son (I also have a living daughter) on March 21, 2013 from sudden cardiac arrest. It is deeply painful. I'm sorry you have to be a member of this group, just as I am sad for anyone in our situation. Prayers.

Permalink Reply by MINI ASHOK on July 31, 2013 at 1:32pm
Michelle,thanks for your support and I'm sorry to hear about your son.I can understand the deep pain you must be suffering from. My prayers for you.
Permalink Reply by Fae McBride on September 9, 2013 at 10:14pm

I'm so sorry Mini! What a tragic loss. I don't understand why the young are taken in their prime either! I do believe in astrology but that our actions can change our path, and it is not set in stone. My faith has also been shaken, I understand. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. 

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