I lost my father when I was 13 so mom became my father...her only sister was very important...my mom passed away in January of 2008...my aunt then moved back to New Jersey...she was 86 and we felt we could take better care of her if she lived here with us...in the 2 and a half years she was here she was in and out of hospitals and rehabs over 9 times...she finally passed on July 1 of this year from a massive stroke...for what ever reason her death hit me much harder then mom's and I am sitting here full of guilt for feeling that way...