Losing mom

I am a 55 yr. young female who lost her mother back in 2007.  She and I were inseparable for all the years of our lives.

 

To make a long story short she suffered her first stroke at the age of 78.  She had been an avid bowler and golfer and, in general, very active and vibrant up until that point.  At least 2 more stokes were survived and then the final insult, Alzheimer's struck.  She was 86 when I lost her.

 

I am still reeling from the loss of my bestfriend.  My life has lost all purpose and meaning since she passed.  Fortunately I was in her hospital bed holding her when she took her last breath.  I am grateful for that but by that time she had slipped into a coma and I'm not convinced she knew I was there.

 

I am extremely lost without her.  I have no children and have only one sister who lives 3,000 miles from me so I am, basically, alone.

 

Hoping to hear from anyone that may be able to relate to my story or who I can just be a friend to.

 

Thanx .... Joan

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Views: 127

▶ Reply to This

Replies to This Discussion

Permalink Reply by Lynn on February 25, 2011 at 11:03am

Hello Joan,

 

I am a 40 year old female who lost her mom, younger brother, my older brother, and my sister, four years ago in

a car accident.

 

My dad died 10 years prior to this from cancer.

 

I  miss my entire family dearly.

 

They were the nicest people that I have ever known.

 

They were kind, compassionate, and very dear to me.

 

You are the first person that I told about the death of my entire family.

 

I feel lonesome since the people that loved me the most have passed.

 

Missing my family,

 

 

Permalink Reply by Joan M Vincent-Hanlon on February 27, 2011 at 2:18pm

Oh my God!  I can't even imagine the magnitude of your losses.  How do you manage to put one foot in front of the other?

 

I am so, terribly sorry I can barely even type.

 

It makes my loss pale in comparison although it has a firm grip on me.

 

Please know that you are not alone in your sorrow.  You are a far stronger person that I for sure.

 

Please accept my sorrow for you ....

 

Joan

Permalink Reply by Judi Cozzi on February 28, 2011 at 7:32pm

Hi Joan,

You are not in this boat alone. I lost my younger brother back in 2002, and I am still not over his death. I lost my mom in 2008 in September, followed by my father that May. I was very close to my mother also. I am now dealing with the loss of my partner/soulmate whom I lost 5 months ago. I feel lost without her. We shared everything together. To make matters worse, her family will not let me see her daughter anymore because I am gay. It just breaks my heart. I have 1 brother and 1 sister left, both of whom I am not very close with. I do not have any children either. I feel all alone in this cold lonely world too. Dealing with my partner's death has thrown me for a loop. All the people whom I loved dearly in my life are now gone and I don't know what to do about it. My partner was the one who helped me get through all of this, and now she is gone. This site has been somewhat helpful to me. At least I know that I am not alone in my struggles. If you need to talk, you can always contact me. Just know that your mom now watches over you and wants the best for you.  Peace & Love, Judi

RSS

Groups

Latest Activity

Krystal Swinehart is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
20 hours ago
Welcome Them!
Profile IconRoger Mayer and Darnell Hargrove joined Online Grief Support - A Social Community
yesterday
dream moon JO B replied to Marisol Delgado's discussion Hitting me
"its so hard xmas coz our loved 1s no longer with us so sorry  on your loss "
Monday
Marisol Delgado posted a discussion

Hitting me

My daughter did MAID last Tuesday and I've been holding up okay.But just now the Christmas convoy (trucks all lit up that do an organized drive through our small town) went by and suddenly I just started crying, thinking how my girl won't be around to have these small moments. And not that she would have - she wasn't a huge Christmas or celebration person. So I don't know why I'm sitting here crying about it.Oh this is going to hurt a lot :-(See More
Monday
1 Comment
Aimer updated their profile
Dec 19
Aimer is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Dec 18
Welcome Them!
Cheyenne Steffen shared a profile on Facebook
Thumbnail

Paula Mullin

Dec 17
Cheyenne Steffen left a comment for Paula Mullin
"Paula! Are you still online? I haven’t been on this site in years and just happened to sign in today and saw your message. I wondered what happened with you! I hope you’re doing well and hope to hear from you. My email is…"
Dec 17

© 2025   Created by Ninja.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service