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Permalink Reply by mary black on June 16, 2010 at 9:42am

Margie,

I am so sorry for your loss. Yes, it has to be much harder to be estranged. I lost my sister Mar. 14th of this year. I too feel very angery. She went into the hospital for a very simple outpatient procedure and the surgeon severed an artery and she bled out so much her liver died. She did receive a liver, but died 12 days later from complications. At the time she was in the hospital I was just getting out from a 6 1/2 week stay. I was in Cincinnati and she was in Columbus. I was out of the hospital 2 weeks when she passed. My SIL called from the hospital and said that she was basically brain dead at that time. I told her to have a mask and wheelcahir ready for me that I was coming up. My daughter drove me there because I was still very sick and weak from my surgery. I didn't even get to tell her goodbye! I've lost my Mom and Dad, I thought was very hard, but my sister's death is such an ingredible loss to me. I have never felt so alone and lost, even though I have the support of many.
I truely understand what it feels like to be estanged from sisters. I have 2 that didn't even talk to me at my sisters funeral. I have done nothing to either one. I often wondered if anything ever happened to them if I would even go to their services? I mean they don't want anything to do with me while they were alive, why would they want me there? It's a very difficult place to be. Again, I'm truely sorry. Hugs and blessings, Mary

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Permalink Reply by coachlouise on June 16, 2010 at 10:23pm

Dear Margie, It is never to late to talk to your sister, or write a letter. Talking is harder for some, as they wonder if they really hear, and they want an answer back. Writing is wonderful outlet, it lets you express your feelings. I even heard that someone mailed their letter even though they would never get it, it felt good to stick it in the mail box. I hope that you will learn to see that all is forgiven, we are all doing the best that we can. Forgiveness is the key to happiness. What a beautiful and caring soul you are for having so much feeling, I send you love, Coach Louise www.americasgriefcoach.com

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