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Permalink Reply by Babs on August 27, 2011 at 7:27am

Adriana, words just don't do justice to what your going through, I don't believe that there is a right or wrong way to grieve but understand what you mean about hurting others, That is a hard one. I think it is normal to have strong feelings that will affect those around us but we then feel guilty about it. Some of the manifestations of my grief I feel probably are wrong or at least not healthy, such as harming myself but I get so angry with myself and sometimes others and don't know how to handle it but I usually turn that anger onto myself as don't want to hurt anyone else. I am here if you want to talk, could have private chat if too much to share publicly, I won't be shocked or judge you in any way, I know what grief can do to you, lots of love and big hugs (I wish they could be real ones, I know sometimes we just need to be held) keep trying to get through each minute of the day. Babs

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Permalink Reply by cindy parrott on August 27, 2011 at 10:27am

 None of us know how to deal with grief. I'm learning it has become a part of who i am. I think all of us feel as if we can't go on. i know each day is a challange for me to get through. i just want to curl up in a ball and cry but i have to keep going. it looks like you have a daughter at home and if nothing else go on for her. she needs you. in the end she will help you more than anything get through this. hold her close to you.

know that there is someone out there that feels your pain and is thinking of you if it helps

cindy

 

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Permalink Reply by Tim on August 28, 2011 at 7:55pm

If you have kids,you have to be so strong,you have to just cuddle the kids,don't let them get upset,take them out for a walk,something different,it is very important to try to stay happy.

  My wife died two weeks ago,I have no kids,but I come home to a empty home,at least you have someone to share your life,that is something to think about.

  Instead of going home everyday to a empty home I go to the park,and just sit and look at the river ,watch other people walk around, something just to keep busy

  not sure if that helps

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Permalink Reply by Shantel Collins on August 30, 2011 at 1:07pm

I have a niece that my brother left me, she's the only thing that keeps me alive. My brother wasn't a quitter so i wont give up either. Your kids need you

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Permalink Reply by adriana gonzalez on September 1, 2011 at 12:29am

@tim I'm so sorry about your loss I can understand what you're going thru.. I'm sorry to hear that is harder for u, I hope things get better for u, thank u I'm really trying to do it for my kids but is very hard at times :( ... @shantel I'm sorry about your loss too.. U know they way u said it .. Is just the way I need it to hear it.. Thank u.. I'm glad u have a part of ur brother with you .. That's going to help u n help her ..

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