Finding It Hard to Grieve

My mother's best friend Tina, who was like a second mother to me, was murdered December 3, 2010. I miss her so much, but it has been difficult for me to grieve. I don't think it has really hit me yet. I don't think it will hit me until the murder trial is over; it hasn't even started yet. Maybe that will give me a little bit of closure. I also feel like it is hard for me to grieve because I am so angry at the man who murdered Tina. Maybe my anger towards him is covering up my sadness, if that makes sense. Does anyone else feel the same way?

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Permalink Reply by Sue Waxman on October 17, 2011 at 7:27am
I believe...Your anger is covering up your saddness. But it is definitely understandable. When someone we love passes to the next world, and I believe that is heaven, we are left with a hole in our hearts and lives that can only be replaced with the love and memories and hopes we have to be reunited with them again. Obviously her way of death is HORRIBLe for all of your to accept. I agree until the trial is over...anger and disbelief will engulf your thoughts. I would be so angry and so just full of hate for the person that did it. Know this...Tina is in a beautiful place and you will see you again. This is true. I am praying for you. There is a lot of power in prayer. TRUST ME ON THIS.
Permalink Reply by Carly Michelle Hoskins on October 18, 2011 at 3:36pm
Thank you for your prayers, Sue. God bless you.

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