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Feeling guilty

I've been feeling guilty for going back to work and moving on with my life after my sister's death. I know that I need to but it's just doesn't feel right. Like I'm somehow going to forget her or something if I don't stop everything. Has anyone else felt like this after the death of a loved one? Like continuing to live your life isn't fair to them? Does this feeling ever go away?

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Permalink Reply by Bob Fredrick on February 7, 2013 at 1:53pm

That's something I haven't experienced, but I think it's because we talked about this situation because of her health. She always told me not to sit around and mope, but to keep living for her. Maybe you should think of it like that.... your sister isn't here, so you should live for her sake, because she isn't able to do so for herself. You aren't going to forget her, just as I will never forget my Sue, but we need to keep living.

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Permalink Reply by Dolly on June 11, 2013 at 11:27pm

Nothing you do can hurt or help your sister anymore...so it seems a waste to worry and feel guilt about going on with life as much as you can stand to do...I'm trying to convince myself of this too...sometimes just thinking that way throws me back into depression,doubt and guilt tho, so its a tricky business...I keep sensing that my son wants me to remember him more than grieve him...he wants me to do the things he liked me to do when he was alive...I mean the things that made me happy and made him happy to be with me during those times we had together...there's no real pattern to how to get on with life..I think you have to just make it up as you go along..some days I don't cry all day...then others I cry and sleep and feel terrible...so ...