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Permalink Reply by Lola on February 28, 2017 at 3:21pm

I know how you feel. It's been 9yrs since my son is gone. I don't have family but my friends think I should be "over it" by now. There is worse feeling that grief and guilt and loneliness

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Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on February 28, 2017 at 3:35pm

I agree with you, I have a family bu they don't want to hear about my deceased Husband. Trust in god they Say, well where was he when I was praying for my Husband's life.

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Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on March 3, 2017 at 7:18am

Hi Anne

Thanks for your input, there is't one person that speaks my Husband's name anymore, it just seems like he fell of the end of the Earth. I am not alone but adjusting to it.

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Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on March 5, 2017 at 6:48am

Anne

I always post on Facebook and whether anyone likes it or not I share a lot of pictures or poems so he is not forgotten. Again another Sunday without him, it was the day he died.

When I go out to dinner, they always ask 1 or 2, I tell them I'm having lunch with my Husband in heaven.

Regards, Linda

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Permalink Reply by Jean on March 5, 2017 at 11:38pm

Hi Linda,

I do the same thing on FB. It has been 4 years since my mother left me. My friends don't understand my loss so I feel like maybe they are not who I want to be around anymore. My best friend now has dementia and has pushed me out of her life. I understand that after much research and soul searching. I have never felt so alone. My husband is all that I have left that cares about me. I am so sad for your loss and hope you can find peace. I am thinking about how to at least enjoy my time left here on earth. I used to love to travel and now it seems to be to much of a bother. I am happy for the memories. My mother told me to look at all of the pictures I took. Keep posting on FB and make a special folder of pics just for yourself. I have one. Feeling sad too.

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Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on March 6, 2017 at 8:12am

Hi Jean,

Sorry about you loss. That's for sharing you thoughts with me.

I love this web-site, everyone of us help each other, not ignore

us like people do.

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Permalink Reply by Oleta Cato on March 3, 2017 at 1:06pm

Time means nothing to us, those of us who are left to mourn.  Grief takes whatever time it needs.  It's been 14 months for me and the pain is even more intense if possible.  My family won't talk about him.  It hurts THEM too much and I need to talk about him.  Our friends are gone.  To me, it's as if they are denying John ever existed.I have new friends from the Grief Group I joined.  They are a blessing.  If the pain would just stop.  Just one pain free day.  I'll say it again, I would gladly give all of my tomorrows for 24 hours with John.  Just to look at him, to hear his voice and feel his touch.

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