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Permalink Reply by Eliza on August 11, 2013 at 10:35pm

Tash,

I am so sorry that you're having to go through this. I lost my mom 8 months ago to cancer and understand the feeling of shock, utter disbelief, and raw, searing pain that it brings. I saw on your profile that you're young and your mom was young. I am young and my mom was young, too. I'm afraid I don't have any advice other than to let you know that I know how you feel. For me, it helped to find an experienced grief counselor to help me through the first stages. I can tell you that, with time, you will find ways to cope with your loss. I know now that the possibilty of getting through such a life-changing event likely seems very abstract at this point. In the first days, weeks, months following my mother's death, I couldn't imagine getting through each day. What helped me was to take each day one day at a time, and on tough days, to take it one hour at a time. Focus on the "now" and don't worry about the future. Make a goal of getting through each day. I still have tough, down days, but I am finding some light, too. You are strong and you will get through this. Know that you have every right to feel and experience your grief and mourn your mother. You will likely find people who understand your grief, and people who do not. Share your grief with those who can understand. And we all understand here. Feel free to message me anytime. Sending you hugs.

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