After 5 weeks in hospital my step son died from complications of alcohol.  It was horrible to watch and my husband, step daughter and myself spent 10-12 hours a day, every day at the hospital with him.  My husband is having the hardest time dealing with his death and I am frightened that he will not survive this.  My husband is 77 (my stepson was 54) and has no interest in anything at all.  We have both read books, gone to a support group but I still watch him suffering so much, I feel helpless.  We came to our winter home where I thought the sunshine and being able to play his beloved golf would help but he can barely take a shower.  

I know there is no time limit here and that he has to walk this journey but what can I do to help?  We are both retired with no job to keep us busy.  I suggested that we volunteer somewhere but since he can't really function right now that is not an option.  The stress is like nothing I have ever experienced.

Can someone please help me to help him.

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