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Permalink Reply by coachlouise on February 25, 2011 at 5:42pm

What if he is with you, just not in a physical sense? All of your feelings are natural, and it is hard to breath and take it all in. Trust the process take ten minutes at a time, I send you love

Permalink Reply by ann l prims on February 25, 2011 at 5:50pm

I know he will alwaybe with me in spirit and in  my heart..but i just miss hugs! his smile! his laughter! just the way life lit up around him

Permalink Reply by jude colangelo on February 25, 2011 at 6:05pm

I'm very sorry for your loss, Ann.  There are a lot of people here who understand what you are feeling ~ because we are going through it ourselves.  hang in there ~ be good to yourself ~ ♥ jude

Permalink Reply by Sean Casey on February 25, 2011 at 7:48pm

I'm sorry to hear it.  My wife killed herself a little over three weeks ago, and I'm still feeling like a zombie, except for the times when the sadness just crashes down on me.  I've only dreamt of her once, but that left me really shaken, too.  I wish I had something deep and insightful and uplifting to offer you.  The best I've been able to do so far is to just keep breathing, just keep doing the next thing, and take time to talk to people.  For me, that's really helped, including talking with the people here.

 

Welcome.  *hugs*

Permalink Reply by memory are private on March 1, 2011 at 3:26pm

Hi Ann,

My name is Kyler, I too lost my best friend to a heart attack as well on November 27, 2010. Best friend doesn't cover what Thomas was to me. When I found out I couldn't breath, I felt my world stopped. We had somethings happen to us in a span of a month. His oldest son died from a heart attack while away on a business trip, my aunt passed away, and I had become guardian to her 2 young children. This man had been by my side though the good and bad, my life was with him. The pain that I felt was immeasurable. I forced myself to get out of bed and as soon as the kids left for school, I cried and still do. For 4 years and 9 months, he was there, day or night. For the 1st time, I had to function without him. It will hurt but take it day by day. 3 weeks after he died, I started going to therapy. I needed to talk to someone, my family and friends were supportive but telling me to be strong, don't cry in front of the kids, deal with it, and it will be ok was not doing it for me.

Permalink Reply by memory are private on March 1, 2011 at 3:39pm

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I've learned it ok to cry. You shared a special bond with him and that is something that can't be forgotten or deminished. I've emailed him, written in my journal, replayed voice messages, prayed that God will wake me from this nightmare. I still can't go though his things yet I have, I take it day by day. At times moment by moment. Cherish your memories, life, and those near and dear to you.