When does the Pain dissapate

I know this is not a straight answer. 

I lost my fiancee one month ago on Thursday. I cry every single day.

I try to hold myself in until I get in my car, then I scream and cry until I get home\\

Just wondering what other people do or have done to keep themselves from going crazy (which is what I feel at the moment)

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Permalink Reply by Lisa on July 8, 2016 at 12:24am

I lost my wonderful husband just over 6 months ago.  He's my entire world.  He's literally the other half of me.  He was my heartbeat that kept me going and looking forward to the future, the reason I wanted to wake up in the morning and get work done to better our lives.  He will always be my #1, no matter what.

As time goes by, it's only gotten worse.  Every day every is terrible and everything hurts. I've cried every single day since January 2.  Time does not heal, not for me.  What I have done to pass time is everything my husband and I would still be doing.  Camping, hiking, being outdoors.  I want to make sure his things that he worked so hard for get used properly.  In every situation though, I cry, sometimes it's non stop, sometimes quiet tears.  Getting out and doing things has helped with one thing.  It's helped time go be a little quicker.  I really, really look forward to the day I won't be here anymore.  The only thing I look forward to in this world is the thought that *maybe* I can be with him again. But I don't know for sure.  I wish I did or had some kind of faith in anything.

Permalink Reply by Jeff C on July 8, 2016 at 6:59am

Lisa, I'm really sorry.  I don't know what to say except that it hurts to read your words.  Have you done any grief counseling?  I have heard that it's a misconception that time heals.  They say it's like a broken leg.   Without medical attention it will only get worse.   Here is a video that might help.

I just woke up a little while ago and started crying.  I miss my girlfriend so much...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k2Bw8_JwI48

Permalink Reply by Dennis C. on July 9, 2016 at 6:22am

A promise that makes me HOPEFUL

  • Re 21:4 And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”

No more pain....what a wonderful promise

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