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Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on April 9, 2016 at 7:18am

Hi Pamela,

So sorry for your loss, I lost my wonderful Husband three years this May 5 and the pain is still there, I think it will always be for most of us who had a great marriage. God Bless You.

Permalink Reply by O.L. Cato on April 9, 2016 at 8:37am

Pamela,

I understand just how you feel.  I l feel the same after 104 days without my husband.  I ask God why he didn't take me with my husband.  But it does get better.  It's been three days that I have not awakened in tears.  That has to be a sign I'm healing. If I had to feel this INTENSE Grief for the rest of my life, however long, I couldn't stand it. I loved him and he loved me.  It's unbearable to think of the rest of my life without him, so you have to think of other things.  It's been a week.  After a week I was still in shock.  I think you will get worse before you get better.  Hang on.  By the way, I still can't speak of him without tearing up.  I can't have his ashes spread just yet.   God bless us all.

Permalink Reply by bluebird on April 9, 2016 at 11:32am

Pamela,

Many of us here, including me, understand. I feel as you do. (((((hugs)))))

Permalink Reply by Hilary Christene on April 9, 2016 at 12:03pm

We here have felt

- It is excruciating to live with the waking pain and disorienting the way that every day has been subtly but certainly transformed into a nightmarish experience of living in Hell

- without our beloved other, whose presence was integral to our life's purpose, whether we even believed in such things before losing them.

- witness to each other in bewildering and even resented survival, redefined by a pain understood by no one else... In the early days, it's as if one has been blown off the Earth by the shattering impact of the unthinkable finality...

I send you much love, even knowing you may not be able to really receive this love, I wholeheartedly offer it to you.