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Permalink Reply by Patricia Hoffman on June 4, 2013 at 8:39pm

I am so sorry for your loss. do you have children & grandchildren? Patricia

Permalink Reply by Dolly on June 5, 2013 at 9:12am

So sorry to meet you in this place where all our hearts are broken to bits and nothing seems real anymore..I have lost my son, and the hole is raw and I feel empty and shattered...I have been with my husband for 39 years this June and its still FAR too short a time ....there's NEVER enough time with the ones we love...ALWAYS too soon to see them leave us here...we just lost our youngest son who died of cardiac arrest suddenly and unexpectedly while we were on vacation at the beach..on May 2 of this year...and the rest of us...me, my husband and my other sons Bo and Erik are devastated.  BUT we have EACH OTHER..do you have anyone such as a child, sister or brother, parent, or friend that you can talk to, be with, share your grief with?  I will always listen and cry with you..and I don't care what you say ...there is no judgement from someone who is going through the same kind of pain you are going through..

Permalink Reply by Dolly on June 5, 2013 at 9:17am

I find so many people...even those who love us..like my oldest son and his family, and my sisters...they just don't know how to interact with us now...its almost as if they don't want to 'catch' our grief, or they think by not expressing it themselves they will somehow make it easier for us to 'get over it'...well we will NEVER 'get over it' so THAT's wrong...its so sad, but when we need love and comfort the MOST it seems the hardest time for people to give it to us....grief is truly the lonliest thing in the world, and the most horrible thing no matter who is gone from you...but your soulmate...that's got to be at least tied with the horror of losing a child....the worst pain imaginable in my mind....either of those losses is more that a person should have to face...especially ALONE..my heart goes out to you...

Permalink Reply by Theresa A. Resh on June 7, 2013 at 10:33pm

I know how you feel Vinnie, my husband died a week before Thanksgiving, and I'm still hurting so bad that I can hardly stand it.  I cry in my car on the way to work each day, because I look at the front door as I'm leaving, and I can see him standing there waving, it just kills me.  I don't know your circumstances, as in, was he sick or was it sudden, but my husband had been in pain for a long while with neuropathy and spinal stenosis.  So, for him it was a blessing, but for me, well, I'll never be the same.  He was my soul mate and my best friend.  I walked around the house today looking at all the stuff he planted last year, and years before, and now here I sit all alone.  So please if you need someone to talk to feel free to contact me.  I know exactly how you feel.