Do you ever feel like your pain from the sadness of losing your child, only intensifies as times goes by?

I loss my 21yr old about 14 months ago, due to him riding his friend's motorcycle. Time has not even begun to ease my pain or my anger. It may sound irrational, but I am really angry that the world is "going on" WITHOUT my son. When they told me that there was nothing left that they could do for my son, I felt like the sun and the moon should never rise again. I felt like I passed away with my son. I want him back.

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Yes every day i feel like this , the more time passes the worse it gets i use to be able to look at her pictures and sob and sob now if start to look at them im so overwhelmed with despair and grieve that i dont allow my self to look because i "HAVE TO FUNCTION" fo rmy daughter whom is 16 . We are all diffrent and thou we all may experience the same kind of grieve in the start of life with out our child some people can figure out how to cope better some how some cant i knew before amber died that i was a strong woman been thru many struggles tribulations but what i also knew was that if i ever lost one of my girls it would take me out and it has there is no way  i will over come this ,i exist now , and only because i have the responsibility of my 16 year old , like you i feel the same when amber died so did i .Amber was 18  has been gone one year and 3 months on the 17th.

I two feel that way and the longer it has been the more angry I get. I want my son back and hole withno medical problems living his life to the fullest.I know in my head he is doing this in heaven but I wanthim hear with me.

Hey Mary, so sorry for the loss of your child. October will be 4 yrs for me and my pain still has not eased one bit! Everyday life's distractions give me temporary relief. I will NEVER be able to accept the loss of my son, it will NEVER sit right with me, it will NEVER be "ok", I just hope life's distractions will keep sustaining me, especially for my other children's sake. Maybe we will just learn how to live with it.

Oh my dear, thanks for embracing my support. I like what you said about only seeing that one tree while our creator sees the whole forest...so beautifully put. Sending my love and thanks for reciprocating the support.

I feel that way very morning too. I still can't believe I will never ever see him in this life. How can this be?

I feel the same way.  It will never be okay.   Its only been two months but everyone things I should be feeling better but I don't.   Most of my working moments unless I am working are thinking about my son, I love you Rob, mom

Sending many big hugs to you, you are welcome.

Hi Karen.  Just checking in on you and hope you are doing well.

Just wanted to say I hope you are doing ok

 

I lost my daughter in 2008 it is so hard for me around the holiday's and summer she loved summer, the pain just never goes away the emptiness..  it never gets better just different. she had a problem with drinking and not eating right she had a seizure and passed away..it is so hard I am just numb.. I just lost my sister on the 17th of Nov. that was such a shock was not expecting that... I get terrible headaches.. any advise on coping.. thanks Debbie

I feel the same way. I lost my son on Dec 6 2013 and now i am just not mentally stable anymore. I have always had depression issues now its like they have intensified by 20 its terrible my other 2 kids and husband are suffering,on top of their own greiving. Im so very sorry for your loss
The truth is no one will ever be right until what we lost is replaced. Time does not heal it maybe that we cope a little better. But the loss of our loved ones makes life a cruel reality of the time we live in. I found the scripture at Revelation 21:3,4 most refreshing as it speaks of a time when death will be no more...our tears wiped away. A hope that helps me to know that God will replace what we lost. It comforts me and helps me understand that Death is not the end of it all.

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