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Permalink Reply by Julie Ann Finch on June 2, 2012 at 11:02pm

sorry about your loss... 

Permalink Reply by Elizabeth Ann Collins on June 3, 2012 at 7:18am

I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my  husband of 3 years 6 months ago, he was shot and killed right in front of me.  He was only 44.  Although you and your husband had been married a lot longer than we were, I know exactly how you feel.  Until you go thru this horrible loss no one knows what it is like.  I have drugs to take as well but nothing helps the hollow feeling like a part of you is missing and will never be back.  I also lost my father 2 weeks after my husband was killed so my mother is grieving as well and I have to be brave in front of her.  I can not give you any words of encouragement, people always say "one day at a time", well it hurts more with each day so there is no comfort in that.  I just ask myself what we ever did to have this happen to us.  My life has changed and will never be the same.

Permalink Reply by Debra Waszut on June 6, 2012 at 6:52am

You are going through a horrible time also. I don't think we did anything to deserve this.  I really do believe that God had our days numbered from the time we are born.  It comforts me to know that my husband is in heaven with him and I have decided that I am going to live my life so that I can be with him when my time comes.  I cannot change what happened hear on earth. But I can certainly make sure I see heaven and my husband again. That is the only place I am drawing comfort.  I loved him so much that I will live my life for him as he would want me too. I have two sons that help me every day. My mother is greiving too as she lost my dad 7 years ago.  You don't have to be brave in front of her.  Maybe you can join a greif support group together.  That might help both of you.  Sorry for your loss. We are in this together.