I read a comment today about Peggys son Shawn. It made me smile. I know we all share the sad things about our children, but it was a fresh story and a happy moment and I appreciate Peggy for sharing this with us. Sometimes we get lost in the saddness of it all and it was nice to see a happy story for a change. So I decided that today I would blog about some of my good memories of my boys. When the boys were little they used to sneak into our room at night and lay a blanket and pillow down on the floor next to me and go to sleep. My mom tried to tell me that them sleeping in my room ws not a good habit to get into, but I said she was wrong. They didn't get into our bed and after awhile they stopped waking us up when they came in. I thought it was nice that they felt comfortable enough with their father and I and trusted us enough to come to our room and lay down and go to sleep. Looking back now I'm so glad we allowed them to do that. I loved waking up in the morning and seeing them sleeping on the floor. I cherish those memories. My younger son lil Del would stick his finger right up to my eyelid while I slept and just touch my eyes. I didn't fimd that annoying at all. I found it rather cute especially when I would be awake but not open my eyes until I was sure they thought I was asleep. Then I would suddenly open my eyes and scare the heck out of him. We would laugh and laugh and laugh. I miss waking up in the morning to all the laughter. April fools day was one of our favorite holidays. That was the day to pull all kinds of pranks on eachother. Those kids had alot of pranks up their sleeves. I always had to think hard so I could out prank them before they got me. That's what I miss the most is all the laughter. One time the boys found a dead cat out in the barn that had been there for quite a while. It looked just like it was sleeping. One night the boys brought the dead cat in the house. I did not know what they had done. My daughter had a friend over for the night. After the girls fell asleep the boys put the cat in my daughters bed. At about 2 in the morning I heard this horrible scream and then more screaming. I got out of bed and I could hear laughing coming from the basement where the boys slept. I had a bad feeling. I went to the girls room and they were screaming their heads off. I could still hear the boys laughing their heads off. I wanted to get mad but it was funny, and I just started laughing. My husband got up and he was mad. He was more mad at me for laughing then he was at the boys for the prank. I just couldn't help it. My husband gounded the boys and sent me to my room. That was many years ago but whenever I think about the incident I still laugh my butt off. The girls laugh about it now too. Life is truly about love and laughter and making good memories. I love them and I miss them both very much.

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Comment by Peggy Jeanine Woody on January 27, 2011 at 9:59pm

Anne, 

 Thank you for your kind words.  Like you, I really wanted to concentrate on some of the good times we used to have.  Shawn was  quite a card. He was crusty tough one the outside and if you could get past that you would find a marshmello heart.  He didn't realize he had it or that it was showing. ha ha.  He was more than just my son, he was my friend and we had a lot of fun together. We also went through a lot together, the accident for one, a tornado for another. He was a hero to his siblings even if they didn't always want to admitt it. 

He was with me 3 years ago last night.  My Mother was in hospice and I was there with her all the way through. It had been a couple of days since she had responded to us and we could tell it was coming time for her to go.  Shawn came to the hospital that night and pronounced he was not leaving. He didn't want me to be alone if Mom Passed.  He told me to lay down and rest and he would take first shift.  He positioned himself in a corner and pulled the tv to where he could watch it. He sat there all night and watched  tv and also watched Mom breath. 

She stayed with us until 3 years ago today at 6 pm central time.  The nurses came to bathe her and she took a deep breath and was gone.  It just so happened that the kids had gone to eat and were on their way back. I started to go to them, but they came in just after.  They gathered around me and tried to comfort me.  Mom had alzheimers for several years. At the end, she was also blind and didn't know anyone was there sometimes.  During hospice, the seemed to recognize me for the first time in a long time.  I told her to go ahead if she needed to and not to worry about me, cause I'll be home before dinner.  I truly think she was already there and her body just had to catch up.  It was peaceful and I know she didn't suffer any longer than necessary.  She was 86. I miss her so much, but in the end it was like I was more the parent and she the child. 

Now I believe she went home to a wonderful reunion of relatives and just waited for Shawn to come to her. I know she is taking good care of him until I get there. 

It may sound silly, but I am not so afraid of death as I once was. 

I loved your story of your boys and the pranks you all would pull. I'm glad there was humor in your lives, and that you have the wonderful memories to comfort you.  Sometimes we need to go back and think of the good times.  Good memories help us to heal. Does it mean I won't miss my son, NO, but it helps to remember him like he was.

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