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Comment by cin po on March 23, 2017 at 8:11am

Hi Jewels,

I am so sad that your husband died a sudden death. My partner and I had a conversation about what's the worst thing that could happen to him. We talked about it for hours and we cried a lot that night. In a way we were saying goodbye to one another but I didn't realize that until he was gone.  We never talked death again when he started his treatments. I still wished that he had accepted what was coming. It would have been easier for me if only he was ready to go.

Comment by Kathleen Jordan on March 20, 2017 at 10:47pm

My other half (it took us 40 years to find each other) is with me everyday....after 5 months.  Yes...talking helps me so much.  One reason I joined this community.....I know he isn't feeling the pain he was and that all is good with him.   Faith matters, feelings matter, futures unclaimed matter.   We were going to outlive our parents and be them...stansions for our family.   And now, I don't even know that the grandson even remembers him....I understand what you mean...if he's with you...he's there.  I agree with saying hello, hope you are good.

Comment by Jewels on March 20, 2017 at 2:14pm

Cin Po, 

I'm sorry for your loss and truly understand.  I lost my partner at the young age of 45.  He left for work at 8:30am and was pronounced dead at 9:41am.. massive heart attack while driving.  I cry everyday, because I now question my own mortality and purpose for living.  We had so many plans for the future.  I too have asked "why" and can't understand.   

This is not an answer, but a quote that I read and hopefully you can find a little comfort as I found myself asking all these questions. 

There will sometimes not be an answer. 

    "Why do some people die young and others of old age?  Why do good people die and bad people live?  I don't know.  Why are people married 60 years and I only had 32?  Why did I lose a wife and so many people still have them?  I don't know.  I don't know. I don't know.  The why will never be answered, ever.  So I just want you to know there will be unanswered questions and you just have to at some point be OK with thinking, "Well there is no answer."  It's part of the great mystery of life."  

Take care

Comment by cin po on March 19, 2017 at 10:08am

Hi Stephanie,

Thank you for reaching out and for offering to listen. I am sorry that you have lost the only person that seemed to care about you. I am happy that you had someone beside you throughout those dark and difficult days.

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Comment by Stehanie Loughmiller on March 15, 2017 at 1:56pm

I am so sorry for your loss, I cant imagine loosing my partner. Loosing my dad was hard enough, my wife was my pillar of strength when he became ill...I probably would have killed myself If not for her. If there is anything I can do please feel free to inbox me. I am a great listener.