Shifting the mind to the PRESENT is not only good, but necessary. THe PRESENT is the only time that EXISTS. The FUTURE and PAST are not real. They are a construct of our feelings and experiences and projections. The past is not only facts but attributted feelings and worth of experiences. Some taught, some were good, and some we chosse to forget. No matter what bringing the past to the present and projecting forward is a CHOICE. And most of us grieving don´t FEEL it´s a choice. In fact, we don´t FEEL we can choose the feelings we have NOW. We tend to attach to what on a conscious level no longer can serve us. Experiences from the past can serve us to choose better, but all we ever need from that is the LESSON LEARNED. Suffering is surrending to something we have no control of. And by projection, we tent to take a deffensive approach to life. And the pattern we vibrate, positive or negative attracts more of the same in the form of EXPERIENCES. THoughts and words materialize. The hurt certain things reminds us on top of fears creat the mindset for accidents and illness. Depending how long and what we attribute negative feeligngs and emotions. Eventually we internalize them and most often that pattern comes from our UPBRINGING. The goods of being in adult life it the power of CHOICE in the PRESENT. THere is a constant exchange of energy with the universe that provides us with multiplying whateve is in our MINDSET. If we can´t shoose what´s in and out our mindsets, we may consider some exercises. Meditation, music, or a walk. Different things work for different people. I personally like guided meditation. One way to quickly make the shift and thus quit suffering, is to close the eyes and focus on the noises around, after a couple minutes up to 5 minutes, the suffer is gone from the mind total shift to the present. Empting current mindset with past or future negative thinking...fear, guilt, shame, pain, etc etc. Next part to keep the abundance from the universe flowing consists in tabbing to this universal consciousness. Much like choosing the channels we want to exchange energy by affirmations and reasonings that reinforce positive patterns of thinking. Some negative patterns of thinking are so deeply rooted in ourselves and for so long, that we have to demand their dissolution, even of those we have not identified. Also because they have been there for so long, diligent attention to the thoughts and words will tell us when to retrieve from wordly or material things to refil the spiritual realm so that comes from there the good to materialize and not the other way around. When we expect materialization before we choose the spiritual pattern, we havve unhealthy attachment to what is and in doing that we don´t allow life to move past that which what we are able to see and touch. However when we fully understand everything in context of ENERGY FLOW, we allow energy in and out and to let go whatever or whoever was necessary to contribute to our WELL BEING, to the arrival at this EXACT point in life whereas we are searching for something beyond the existence of our BODIES and the false assumption we must decide who has to walk with us and for how long. Also, when we demand the universe to recycle the bad energy and turn into positive, an understanding must surface that we perhaps don´t yet know why some things cam to make feel good or bad. But that nevertheless we fully aknowledge there is a full participation to endorse that has to do with what we consider ACCEPTABLE. Within the ACCEPTABLE around us, there are so many levels we take part, theat could be virtually next to us what we dislike but take no effect. When we get to that level, even the sources of bad can turn into something good, because our level of ACCEPTANCE is radiating back into that positive energy coming our way, and shaking off the negative. The CONSCIOUS EXITENCE truly depends in the level we CHOOSE to exist with this universal energy, that is full of infinite love some call GOD. There is a place we create to interact with this realm, which is only existing within our minds. It´s a home of our dreams, with the people we want and we take time in there to rest our minds and fill with ever more details. There is a child in there that is our inner child. There may be spirits and our higher delf visit, anything we want. What floowed this particular night I forgot myself in there, was to wake up in geat mood and have interesting or meaningful dreams. Life quality is by all means an EXPERIENCE we CHOOSE to have and depends on just TO BE. There is much literature in the topic of conversations with higher self, inner child, and the visualization tool. I put all together what I have learned of these tools to go for it into the imagination realm and surround to the experiences I choose to some extent, but the talks and perceptions must flow in a LOVING manner. These days there is much online and on youtube, and back in the days there were at best books. There was nothing audible in books or online and to some extent there was a lot more up to imagination. Because I was in bed, I couldn´t make to a phsychologist, couldn´t endure the trip. When I finally could, made little difference and was I ever glad formy research background lead me to the best therapists available as opposed to the locally available. Thus, there is much online today to help guide into this richer world of mindset and energy that by far surpass the quality of the local help and helps finding what we need from local help as well. Therapy helped, but was limited to the tool of that therapist, most here don´t even read English and therefore they live happily ignorant of the language researches trade knowledge in this universal world we live in. So, lowering expectation can be something cruel when placing the most important part of your body to get tuned up, THE BRAIN. The brain, and mindset is what rules the decision making, the focus, to what we allow in life and what not. And knowing what I know now, would be insane to trust all this to one professional. There are many concepts out there that I rather pick and choose the ones that work for me than beengiven a one person MENU. Reading for too long, 17 to 45 yo, I think I have developed this sense of what is believable and acceptable to my mindset, and change my mindset without the need to apply any by FORCE. This is not a MUST DO, instead it´s something WE LOVE TO DO. We are humans seeking for knowledge out there that works for us. What local help gave me, was interaction to speack of the problems but the solutions quite honest were bvious before I ever stepped there, and because was a family therapy it was interesting too to see who shwed up and payed over time and kept their word...JUST ME. Everybody else made one excuse on top of the other. I think because I read so much, I could take more advantage of the opportunity, but reality check, most will check out of THEMSELVES, never mind wanting to take the time to fix their interactions with others. Can´t give what you don´t have. Not until that self talk is a constant, you have any clue of how helpful mand positive the exchange may do. Society is very eaguer to discard people, not realizing the roles will reverse and whatever we left will be right in front of us again and again. And make it just more difficult once the EASE in between reversing roles became opposing forcews by neglecting or refusing the opportunity to visit SELF and expand to the loved ones. And that is reality of life, most people are not ever ready to visit and address the hurt, but they have no problem acting outwards is ways way more damaging to them on the long run. Opting to deal adn the sooner the better, think how much time and energy we safe from running in all the wrong directions and doing things to protecting ourselves instead of just opening SELF to different concepts in how to besttune up our MINDSET, and active role creating our OWN EXPERIENCES. Think about it!