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Comment by Nicola (Nyki) Borgman on June 18, 2011 at 2:52pm

I'm sorry Steacy. I know how you feel when it comes to being upset with other family members.  After my son, Cameron passed away it was almost like i was being pushed to move on, and felt that they were not giving me enough time to grieve.  After 8 months it seems that i am the only one who is still aching from his death. Though i know other peole grieve differently, i just hurts to see my other kids and family members going on with life, Almost like he didnt exist.  He was only 3 but it still hurts.  I commend you for wanting to goto you mothers grave.  I still have a hard time going to my sons "resting place". Hang in there...

Comment by DNG on June 17, 2011 at 9:47am

Hi Steacy, may God bless you, your husband and child. The 1 year anniversary of the death of mom is coming up in July. I know how you feel to the extent of having your mom taken away from you. I can only emphathize with how you feel about the manner in which she was taking away from you. I'm so sorry. Losing such a staple in your life is not easy. My mother, like yours, was always there for me and you always knew that no matter what you could count on them. Now that their gone, you kind of question, if there is anyone out there that will have your back. I've wondered the same thing. You're not alone. You've got to keep pushing on. You have a husband and baby to live for. I have 4 sons and a wonderful husband and that is what keeps me grounded and in a sense gives me something to live for. Also prayer... prayer, prayer. If you find that you have nothing to hold on to, PRAY. Pray that God strengthens you and comforts you. I've prayed that simply saying more than I can count and it works. You have lean to the Lord, there you can escape for the moment and find refuge until you're ready to face the world again.... and soon enough you will be!!!

Comment by Dylan Ishmael on June 16, 2011 at 4:36pm

Steacy, I am so sorry for your loss.  I don't know how to express the compassion any better in language.  I know after my mom died this year I was annoyed when people would say "sorry for your loss."  But I can understand your pain and your feelings of isolation and despair.  When you suffer such a tremendous loss, it can be traumatic.  It completely changes everything that you had planned in your life.  It's like a bomb, and  you feel like you're living a life you've never known before because it is new.  Despite the fact that life seems like it has shit on you and many others, it is important to remember that is can be beautiful and exciting.  It's just going to take some time for the anger to subside.  And it's frustrating and can make you even more angry because of the uncertainty that time also brings.  Know that you're not alone in your pain, though you may feel isolated by not being able to communicate with those around you.  I wish I could hug you.  Hang in there!