Hi Rosie

I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for reading my story and trying to connect. Let me know if we can chat sometime and share our stories in more details.

Hi Rosie,

Thank you for giving me the chance to talk about my wife, Chikako (Chiko for short).  She was Japanese and were were married way back when I was stationed in Japan.  It really was love at first sight.  She was so cute.  She was only 4'11" and weighed about 110 lbs. back then in her 20's.  By the time she passed away she was only 4'6" and 85 lbs.  She suffered a lot starting in her 50's from arthritis and eventually the drugs she took to fight the pain finally destroyed her heart.  She was a fantastic cook and the best gardener.  She loved to raise orchids and everyone came to her with their sick plants.  She was such a quiet and peaceful person who did not say a lot (unlike me) but when she spoke everyone listened because she was so wise.  I could go on and on about what a wonderful person she was.  I was not always the best husband, but she forgave me every time.  I will not let her memory die.  I talk about her constantly to my son and his wife and my grandchildren.  They all loved her very much too.  I sure hope there is an afterlife and that we join our loved ones again.  It is all I have to look forward to.  Thank you again for your support.   Phil

Hi Rosie,

Thank you for welcoming me to the site.  I'm desperately trying to deal with my grief at the loss of my wife.  She was my constant companion and I had expected that I would go first, but the universe had a different plan I guess.  I am old and she was just a year younger, so we knew our time was limited, but suddenly I find that I cannot fathom life without her.  I don't seem to have a purpose, even though it has been over a year now since she passed away.  The pain does seem to be lessening, and listening to other people's stories helps.  Thanks again for welcoming me. 

Thank You Rosie. I am feeling so lost. Its like all of sudden I don't belong anywhere- does that make sense? Would you like to share your story?, if not its Ok.

Thank you for your kind message, Rosie.  I'm sure this will be a place of comfort and friendship for me when I need it most.  I look forward to being there for others in the group, as well.

Thank you for the kind words. :)