I get asked that a lot.  I really don't have an answer.  Yesterday was the first anniversary of my father's passing.  That in itself is hard enough but like some demented commercial my life has been "But wait there's more".   A beloved uncle and a brother in law died quite unexpectedly in January.  But wait there's more.  My mom passed in June.   There were a few others in there.  The grandfather of my husband.  A couple more in laws of my older sister.   My family is numb from grief.   So…