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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by lynda whitton on November 3, 2012 at 7:20am

They meant the world to me. I got married nearly 5yrs ago & as i was so close to them i asked them to act as my Grandparents as my husbands grandparents were still alive & i wanted them to play such a special role in my life. My heart goes out to my cousin Claire who was there for her mum right to the end & was there for her dad holding his hand whilst he passed away yesterday even though he was sedated, shes only about 40yrs old & has lost both her parents to cancer in less than 3yrs of each other

Comment by Esther Ferrari on November 3, 2012 at 3:52am

Dear Lynda, so touching to see your love for your aunt and uncle:-) Sounds like they were very special people in your life. Condolences to you and your family. Love Esther.

Comment by lynda whitton on November 2, 2012 at 8:22pm

My uncle lost his battle against cancer today, went to visit family & had every plan of visiting him at the home before i left, but within 1hr of arriving got the call that we had all been dreading he gave up his will to live 30mins before hand, sad as it is to me i now know that he can be with my aunt again nearly 3yrs after cancer took her away from us all. RIP Uncle Bill now you may find your peaceful way back to Auntie Pat & to the arms holding you that you have missed for nearly 3yrs ago. The tragic of my story is that i lost my aunt 3yrs ago in dec to cancer & this exact date last year my sisters mother-in-law lost her battle against cancer & now my Uncle gave up his will to battle cancer that he was diagnosed with less than 4months ago, but atleast i can now try & find some peace knowing that when he lost his wife(my aunt) to cancer nearly 3yrs ago they can finally be together again

Comment by lynda whitton on October 27, 2012 at 7:13pm

just been to see my uncle today & cant believe how quick the cancer is taking him away from me. i feel so alone tried talking to my husband about it, but he jsy doesnt understand, lost my aunt to cancert nearly 3yrs ago & now my uncle, just hurts so much to see him wasting away & not being more closer to libing near him to spend every day letting him know how much i love him & feeling today will be the last time i get to tell him that as feel next time i can get down to where he lives will be too late. I love him so much & now that he has no fight in him to fight it since lossing his wife/my aunt to this horrid disease nearly 3yrs ago

Comment by Esther Ferrari on October 26, 2012 at 4:22am

Dear Don, I am so sorry for your very recent loss. 

Comment by michael sandoval on October 24, 2012 at 9:33pm

oops, I meant 9/28/12.  sorry, Mom.

Comment by michael sandoval on October 24, 2012 at 9:32pm

Dear Jonathan,

My condolences to you.  I lost my mom on 9/29/12.  God Bless.

Comment by michael sandoval on October 24, 2012 at 9:30pm

Dear Don,

My Condolences.  My wife Denise passed away 3 years ago and she had a lot of faith in the Lord.  She never turned against Him or hated Him.  She had a lot more faith and love for God than I do.  But she taught me about faith and love and lie and death.  She taught me more than anyone.  and I know what I say doesn't help you, I really know because i experienced what you are going through.  I still cry for her.  But I just lost my amazing Mom on 9/28/12 and now i know that denise's passing really helped me with my Mom's passing.  Because of Denise, I was able to talk to my Mom for three hours just before she passed and i told her how wonderful she is, how much I aprreciated everything she ever did for me, how she influenced me so much and still does, how sorry I was for everythiNG I ever wrong and the things I did that hurt her. I read the Bible to her, Denise's favorite story,  I told her what an inspiration she was, not just to me but to everyone who knows her and I told how great she was for giving me my dad. and what a great man he is and she is.  If it hadn't been for Denise and her example of love and faith in the LOrd, I know I wouldn't have been there for my Mom.  Denise gave me the strength to turn my mom's passing into a glorious event and a touching experience for me and my mom.

Love and Blessings ot everyone

Comment by Don Smith on October 24, 2012 at 9:12pm

I just lost my beautiful wife on Oct 8 to sarcoma...a damn cancer that is so rare that only 1 out of 100 cancers are of this type ..and within this there are 50 or so varieties that aren't even classified making it even more likely that whatever chemo drug they try doesn't work (there has been only one new FDA drug approved in the last 30 years for this)..the bottom line is if you're one of the very unlucky to get this cancer chances are not good for your survival..my wife was one of the unlucky ones..I've cried every day over the sobering fact that we shall never see or hold each other ever again..To realize that is almost beyond bearable...I guess I just want everyone to know that a loving, beautiful, smart, caring, great mother and my best friend and lover didn't deserve this horrible end to her life...Good people, religious people, have told me she is going "to a better place' but I can't believe in a God that would allow this to happen...She was unlucky...a God had nothing to do with it...she got a rotten break...and so did I along with her...Damn cancer did her in...and I will never be the same because of it.

Comment by Mark on October 23, 2012 at 4:17am

Jonathan I know exactly how you feel.  It sucks.  My entire immediate family is now dead and gone.  Even my big brother is gone.   When my mom died in Dec 2011 that was my last connection.  Grandparents are gone as well.   I'm in my 40's but there are moments when I feel about 5 years old and I start thinking back and can vividly see myself playing  with my hotwheels on the fireplace harth while my older brother is bothering me and my dad is sitting on the couch reading the newspaper and I can hear mom talking on the phone and then BAM they are all gone and that little kid in my wonders .. where did they all go?  My moms loss from cancer was the worst for me.  I focused so much on making her comfortable I suppressed every emotion.  At 10 months after her death I'm starting to wake up in the middle of the night with horrid panic attacks.  The counselor I'm seeing said it's post traumatic stress syndrome and  all the suppressed adrenalin is not coming out.  The thought that usually races in my mind during these attacks is the realization she's really gone and I'm never going to see her ever again in my life time.  Honestly, I don't know why I'm going on through life without all of them.  I won't be getting any trophy and it's just never going to be the same.  For me living is actually complete misery.  No friend can replace a family member.  I don't even know what to do with the holiday season coming up and I'm not going to be the pathetic guest invited to make that person feel like they did their holiday good deed while I'm sitting their in anguish wanting to be with my own mom.  I'm sick of it.  Some times I really do think suicide is just an act of mercy when it gets like this. 

 

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