How to feel complete again

I can't seem to get out of this state of constant sadness. It's an effort just to breathe. I take a lot of deep breaths because it's just so overwhelming that my dear husband of 24 years is gone! I can't motivate myself to do much, especially cook. I listen to a lot of sad songs that bring back memories and it makes me cry, I just feel lost, and life feels pointless!

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Permalink Reply by bluebird on December 15, 2015 at 10:30pm

I can't really offer any help, because I feel exactly the same way.  But I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in feeling as you do -- there are lots of other people on this site, in addition to me, who feel that way too. I hope you are able to find some peace here, or at least know that you aren't alone.

Permalink Reply by HollowHeart on December 16, 2015 at 11:38am

Everything you have said I have felt or said myself. As others have stated, you are not alone. I echo Bluebird and Lizzie in the no mood department. I love video games and my joy for them is not as it once was. I also hate every morning because it's another day to get through without my sister and best friend. Do you have favorite TV shows? Do you like movies and TV? If so, find a show that just you liked, a favorite of yours not your husbands, and try to watch. TV watching is something you can do with no effort and can just zone out, not to mention it's noise and sights and can offer a distraction. It's a sort of baby step direction in getting back to things you like to do. 

But can't lie, it's very hard without your companion there. Distractions can become tedious.

Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on December 16, 2015 at 3:40pm

dont no

lison2 a lot of 1980s songs thng yea evry 1 wz still hear 

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