Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Lisa Maria DeMatto- Wysong
Female
Boyertown, PA
United States
Profile Information:
- About Me:
- I am 54 years old, I have been married for 25 years and have two handsome sons.
- About my Loss:
- I have been through a difficult time. In 2014 my father in law passed, and my sons best friend Justin. Justin was a member of our family. I love him like he was my own, he had such a big heart, very compassionate. Playing the guitar was his life and he was recording his music. He was 30 when he was taken from all of us, way to young.
Early 2014 my dad was diagnosed with cancer. 2015 was by far the worst. Seeing my Dad whither away and trying to help a life long friend Michael with his diabetes.
I went to visit a Michael on Dec 18 2015. I walked in and was talking to him while walking down the hall on my way to his living room I though to myself he must be asleep he usually greets me. I walked into the living room and immediately turned around, because what I saw was so awful my whole body started to shake uncontrollably, My friend was dead. He had been dead for at least a week when I found him. Michael had been having trouble controlling his diabetes.I loved him and always will. Finding him was devastating it shattered my world. Both from the grieve and the horror of seeing him like that.
My Dad passed away while sleeping on Dec 27 2015 a mere 9 days after I found my friend. My Dad was an awesome father, husband, son, brother and friend. I couldn't have loved him more. I miss him terrible.
Watching him wilt away was also traumatizing as I'm sure some of you understand. Cancer Sucks.
So I am struggling to be myself. I used to be so easy going and Happy but now. I really don't care about anything and I am scared everyday. My husband and sons have been great. but they rest of my family and friends don't understand at all.
So glad I found this site.
My father died 8 days later. He went peacefully at home surrounded by his girls, that's what he called my sisters and I. He was my Superman.
These loses have left my head spinning, sometimes I'm just numb and other times I just sleep all day so I don't have to think. The thoughts are crazy. It's hard for me to share my feelings with my family, I don't want to burden them with my troubles because they also lost their Dad. They never understood Mike's and I relationship.
I'm hoping that this online support will help. I just don't want to leave the house sometimes.
My husband has been very supportive. Thank God.
Dennis C.
Lisa,
I am so sorry for the losses that you have suffered.
Death is without question an enemy. This is What the Bible even calls it.
When Jesus had a good friend die, he was moved to tears and groaned inside himself because to the pain that death causes.
I deal with the losses by focusing on the HOPE we have for the future. In the Bible we find 8 resurrections where we see family reunited with their dead loved one. My favorite is in Mark 5:41, 42. This account talks about a 12 year old girl who had died. Jesus brought the young girl back to life. When the parents were reunited with her it says
"And at once they were beside themselves with great ecstasy"
That's how we WILL feel when we are reunited with the loved ones we have lost.
None of this takes our loneliness or pain away. It does however give us HOPE. This hope helps us navigate through this painful journey.
I hope that you can find some HOPE to grab onto. If I can help please let me know
Nov 25, 2016
Michele
march will be 2 years that I my sister and brother in law died tragically in a fire. I still struggle daily and cant wrap my brain around the fact that she really is not here. Everyone always says with time it gets better for me it just feels like with time I only just realize the emptiness and void is just deeper. I struggle daily with depression but try so hard to put on my fake smile and just some how appear normal during my days. I am trying to be supportive to my sister's kids especially during the holidays but again when I am around them it is just another gut punch of how things will never be the same with my sister gone. I just really want to get through these holidays. I know for all of you the holidays are the worse.
Dec 2, 2016
Sharron Anderson
Thank you Lisa for your kind words. I don't know how to vent right now, I feel like I am dead inside. I go thru the day doing things like I use to but with no feelings inside. You are right, I am traumatized with no way of processing being hit from all sides. I will take you up on your offer when I am in a bad way.
Sharron
Sep 17, 2022