Dear Mr. Dresner,  I am so very sorry for your loss and especially your pain.  I have not had the horrible experience of losing my spouse, however, I have sufferede 2 incredibly difficult losses.  My dad died from cancer and 10 months later my mom was brutally murdered in her home.  It is incredibly difficult to cope with the greif, trauma, anxiety, and depression that come with a loved ones death.  I understand that you don't hear from your children as often as you should and that just breaks my heart.  Please feel free to talk to me anytime you would like.  Just send me a message and I will answer as quickly as I can.                          Sincerely, Kandi

Thank you for adding me as a friend Irwin.  Im sorry we both have reason to be on such a site as this, but at least it is here when we need it right?  Hope you are having as ok a day as possible.