Terry

Female

Spencer, MA

United States

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About Me:: I live in New England. I am a 58 year old female, self employed, married, 2 grown children and 3 grandchildren.
About my Loss:: I lost my dad to cancer on Nov. 10, 2011. My father was 88. My father was so healthy all his life, he retired with 11 mos. sick leave saved up. In 2009, he was diagnosed with esophageal cancer, chemo, radiation (no side effects except for fatigue and a tinny bit of haor loss) the cancer went into remission. Then he was diahnosed early last year with a tumor in the tube connecting the bladder/kidney, to keep the tumor from spreaing, they removed a kidney. Within 4 weeks he was out and driving, going places. At this time he was also diagnosed with prostate cancer and multiple myeloma. The latter was depleting his energy, and he needed blood transfusions every 6-8 weeks. The week before he dies, he was still active, but went into the hopsital with pneumonia, his kidney was shutting down, bleeding internally from the recurrence of esophageal cancer, he desiced no more treatment, he was ready to leave us. He visited his wife, my mom, who is in a nursing home with alzheimers, he told her goodbye before he went to hospice, she was totally unaware. He passed away 3 days later, that was Nov. 10. I have pretty much been in bed ever since. Not working, Ive gained 20 lbs, went from sleeping 12+ hours off and on day and night, to now restless sleep, no more than 4 or 5 hours. Please help me.