im sorrry to hear yore husband has th c i cnt evn say ths word coz it maks me feal lik its chokng me 

on my dads sid iv lost so amny to ths dese frm pel in th 30s to 80s 

i wont evn get tested coz wot i dnt no wont hrt me 

all i no sorry for yore loss

Dear Bobbie,

First, I am so sorry you have suffered the loss of your family members and that they have happened so close together. The death of someone we love is devastating, but three deaths of fast . . . Well I wish I could give you a real hug. (((((HUGS)))))

From your posts let me reassure you that you are perfectly normal. It is funny but that is exactly what I was asking when my father in law passed away. I got sick, like a stomach virus, it was so bad that I couldn't eat and the drive to his home town took a really long time since I had to keep stoping the car to find a restroom. I found a brochure WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE DIES extremely helpful as it reassured me that I was "normal" and so are you. Each of us travel this horrible grief highway in our own way and at our own pace. It is as unique as a fingerprint.

One thing the brochure mentioned was that talking is very helpful and you have found a great group here that will listen anytime you need. The following is a quote from the brochure:


"Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break."

There is so much more and if you like you can read it on-line at http://m.wol.jw.org/en/wol/lv/r1/lp-e/0/19530

Please accept my friend request, I look forward to talking. I will listen anytime . . .

Brenda
Mawmaw1591@gmail.com

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