As usual, thanks for the message, David.  I find them very useful.  I am absolutely determined to get out and enjoy this long weekend.  I am going to try to spend as much of it as possible outside.  I am going to do those things that I would have done with my husband.  It seems so obvious but I really had to come to the understanding that I can still do all the same things - just not with him.  I am not willing to give up activities that we always enjoyed together.  It's an adjustment but one well worth working to make.  You have a good weekend, too.  All the best, L.

David,

thanks for the link..i found it useful.

Its been nearly 3 months since my friend died.  I have written some poetry about her and it has helped.

I think that the thing that pissed me off was that her sister shut down my friends facebook account.  We, the friends of the deceased had used the page as a tribute, posting pics, telling stories... crying and laughing over our friend's avante guard life  and her " to hell with the conventional rules" style.

Now, thats all gone too!  To the best of my knowledge there wasnt an memorial service. and they quickly had an estate sale of all her things,

I had asked for something small, to remember her, and there was no response from the family.

I do appreciate that maybe their way of handling this is to get it behind them fast and to try to forget it, I just feel angry that they offered me no closure.  I will deal with that in time too,

I'm glad to have this site since the people here are willing to provide the space and support to process and face the grief.  Other people around me just want me to " get on with things...

Little do they seem to realize that grieving IS getting on with job 1 !

Be well everyone, be gentle with yourself.

i just needed to say how sorry i am for lose and thank you for the kind words it did/does help me  feel some what little better knowing im not completely alone  wrrrit/message me eny time ok take care