Hi Alfred, I have joined this support group so I really don't know my way around or most people's reason for their grief.  It appears to me that your son passed.  Recently I lost my husband of 20 yrs and my mother.  But I lost my baby girl in 1992.  I don't what to say that would help you get thru your pain because I still have not gotten thru my own.  I just wanted to say that I know how you are feeling and I care.  You will be in my prayers.  You can also email me at chloe.damar@aol.com if you want. ..Goodbye, Chloe