Jon, I posted something for you, but I think I did it in the wrong spot under your blog post.. duh.  Hope you can find it.  My heart goes out to you and your family. 

Hi, you've been on my mind. If you don't mind me asking, what happened to him after the surgery? I just can't believe it, something like that so quick and tragic, I feel your family's pain inside my heart. How are your other kids and wife doing? I'm sure you are such a great dad, to say he's your best friend. My kid's dad is not a good dad and I blame him for part of my Randy's drug use, which I guess really isn't fair, but he told him to experiment in high school, I'm sure he didn't expect him to use heroin, I cannot understand anybody that would use heroin. We dealt with the lies, deception, Xanax for a couple years at least leading up to the heroin, it was all so stressful and so hard. It sounds like you have such a nice family, I don't know why things like this happen. Somebody told me to read the book "when bad things happen to good people".

If you go into one of your groups then there is a comment wall and you can post what you would like.  I found this group and it has helped me, it's a horrible place for us all to be but we all have each other.  Hugs..

Oh my God Jon...ohhh no how awful, what's his name? This is just wrong, my heart is just aching for you all, man this shouldn't be. What in the world could have happened? You sound like such a great dad, I know you must be so devastated, that word doesn't even cover it.  This is crazy oh I am so so so sorry.  How are your other kids coping? Stupid question I know, I also have a 21 year old daughter my Randy was 18. It hurts so much to see her in pain also. But its us parents that it just kills.  So not right...