Dear Michelle,

First of all...I am so deeply saddened to hear you have lost your son. Your burden is beyond measurable. Life forever changed. The why's ....there are no answers that we know.

Why your son? If you can possibly take one minute at a time, then one hour...one day...how ever you can do it. When I start to go to a dark place thinking about my mother dying before me...the life leaving her face...I have to tell myself "I can't go there".

The bond between mother and child and child and mother - a bond so special, so strong, just so unbreakable. You lost your child. I lost my mother - she was devoured by cancer.

Loosing a child has to be the hardest. My mother was not 17. She had lived a nice life of 77 years. You have a long painful road ahead Michelle. No one will sugar coat what you have to overcome on the site.

Loss of your job, purchasing a new home...stressful on its own. My heart is very heavy for you right now Michelle. For those of you who have lost children - I have no idea how you can even get out of bed each day. But we all have to. Please accept me as your friend and part of your support system. If you need to talk 941-809-8673. Hugs and Love Sue

GM and hello and im so so sorry for your loss unreal this to me how many of our babies are taken so randomly so unfairly and yes i have Sarah and she is what matters i can not bring amber back matter of fact the other day i looked over at amber's picture and turned it around said to her im so mad at you so angry how could you not listen to us your sister and i begged you to please stop , we asked you did you ever stop to think what it would do to your sister and i if you were to overdose and you took it all as nagging and me being controlling and your sister being the good little girl playing on moms feelings i had this whole conversation with her while Sarah sat on couch watched me then she said im glad you said  that  mom i feel like that at times about her but then feel guilty because shes gone and more guilty because your so so sad so Ty  i don't feel so bad any more ...any how Ty for all the kind words ..talk soon...

Dear Michelle,

You have suffered such a horrible loss. I cannot even imagine how a mother deals with such a loss. My heart aches reading about your son. I am glad to hear your daughter has moved home. That is a comfort I am certain. I will include you in my thoughts and prayers. This site provides a tremendous amount of support and comfort to me. I hope it does for you as well. There are no answers to the questions you must ask yourself. We never know why someone is taken at the age they are or in the way they were taken from this earth. From us. The reality of living without them physically here is an every day challenge. For me I just know that at any given moment and place I could be next and be reunited with my family in heaven. That's one of the things that keeps me from just giving up on myself and this life. How blessed you were to have such a wonderful son even for a short while. I got pregnant was I was really young and was selfish and had an abortion. I still hate myself for that. I wish I had been more together and had a more stable frame of mind back then. Made better choices. Your son is still your son he is just in another place surrounded by wonderful people and still playing his music. As much as there is good in the world there is evil. Evil created the accident - God wrapped his arms around your son and took him to heaven so that he would not suffer. Sue

Dear Michele

 my son and only child was killed on Dec.1, 2012 as a passenger in a car as well. He was 17 years old. I feel your pain so completely. The driver while I'm sure feeling his own pain, has not apologized or manned up to his actions (speeding,  passing illegally on a wet road - I'm sure he thought he could handle it all). The pain of not having my son, my only child and having to deal with the legal process, anger, guilt, regret, etc etc is overwhelming. I just joined this group and as I look at the pictures of your son I realize he was a musician. So was my son Daniel. My husband and I are both professional musicians and Daniel was always joining in and learning new instruments and well as producing his own music. How I would give anything to hear him again. He was incredibly talented and I miss him so much. I know how devastated you are because I am too. And with no other children, our lives and future seem empty. It is all so unreal. My heart goes out to you.

Connie