Hi David,

My brother died 2 months ago tomorrow, and today I got his official death certificate in the mail.  It was like someone had kicked me.  

I think this passage in your/our lives is something that will take a lot of time.  My birthday is this weekend, but I don't know how I will feel about it.  Grieving is such a complicated, mysterious process.

Good luck to all of us.

i lost ny  husband  to cancer on may 13 2011 im so depressed

 sense he left me

Hi David, Thank-you for your comment. It is 6 months tonight. It is getting a little easier.

I saw your post about NASCAR races. Ken loved watching them and got me into it. I watch when I can (I don't have cable, so when they are on FOX or ABC). I miss sitting next to him on his couch.

Take care, Sandy

Hi David and thanks for the nice message.  I'm so sorry for you loss, of course.  I've only come on here a couple of times but it's always nice to find kind words from someone.  It makes a difference to connect with others who have been where I am.  I feel like they might have some advice and some direction for me, as I so often feel that I'm just muddling through.  This is SUCH uncharted territory for me (for everyone, I guess) and those that have gone before me often have some helpful insights.  So, again, thanks.  Wishing you all the best.  Lynne

Thanks again, David.  It's nice to pop on here and find some nice words from someone who knows of what they speak - it makes a difference because I know that you've been where I am so it's not at all theoretical to you.  You sound like you're definitely doing much better and that your life is moving forward again and that's good to hear...and definitely hopeful.  I'm doing quite a bit better, too.  I still have my moments, of course, but I feel more like myself again every day and that's a very good thing.  I don't want to get stuck in sadness.  As I've said before, we had a long and wonderful life together and I hope to have a wonderful life on my own, as well.  Take care and have a good weekend. L.

My thoughts, huh?  Well, I'm glad that every waking minute isn't as miserable as those first several weeks were! Finished work, went out for coffee with my daughter, came home and did some watering in the beautiful Spring gardens. Just very grateful for these "lighter" days and for the ability to notice nice things around me now - it's been a while. How about you?  What's on your mind today?

Hi David.  Yes, it's been very helpful for me to come on here from time to time.  Most of you have been going down this road much longer than I have and I see that I have much to learn from other people's experiences and thoughts about the process.  Also, it's just nice to spend some time with people who are going through much of the same things that I am...there's definitely something to be said for shared sadness and grief.  This Sunday will be my husband's 62nd birthday and then our 42nd anniversary is coming up in June, so I have the feeling that these days will be a bit more difficult.  What have your experiences been with such days, if I might ask?  I'm trying to think of some way to commemorate them and perhaps not feel as sad as I imagine I might.  Maybe I'm asking the impossible - not sure.  Anyway, take care and thanks again for the kind words.  L.

Thanks David.  It's so hard to function right now.  I feel so alone and lost.  He was my best friend and we did everything together.  We didn't have kids and we moved to a new area 2 1/2 years ago for his job, so we don't have family nearby.  People are trying to help, but they haven't lost a spouse and it's hard for them to understand what I'm going through.  Sometimes I just want to give up it's so hard.  

Well, David, I made it through the weekend and my husband's birthday and got back to work today, which is always good.  I'm thinking that the weekends are definitely going to be the hardest for me so I figure I need to make more weekend plans to compensate for that.  I'm learning how to arrange things to make it easier for myself.  There's a LOT of learning to be done right now, that's for sure.  I've appreciated your notes and comments and always wish you all the best.  Hope you had a good weekend.  L.