Hi Gina,

I can understand where you are coming from. I lost my husband on 12/22/10. We were together 31 years and were just getting ready to retire. In fact he retired one day and the next I took him to the hospital and found out he had brain cancer. So his retirement lasted 17 months and included radiation, chemo and all that goes with it. We spent 24/7 together and I was with him when he passed at home peacefully. It is a terrible void, but I have to keep on going. I just turned 60 in Feb. and Harry was 67 when he passed. You never know when you will be dealt this hand, but it seems it is happening more rather than less. I try to keep busy with my home renovation. I plan on listing my home later this month and fulfill both our dreams of relocating to the Gettysburg Pa area. We love it there and my husband being from Pitts. was going to put us halfway between his family and mine in NJ. Well I will do it anyway and know that he will be with me always. Please tell me your story and how you are doing. It is so hard, some days are better than others.

Jeanne

Gina -

I would be happy to chat with you; I lost my husband of almost 32 years to cancer last November.  It's been a difficult road; we had a second grandchild coming in June and another daughter is getting married in Sept and we are all painfully aware that he won't be here for these two events.  Just let me know how I can help; sometimes it just helps to let it all out... 

Cnthia

Hi Gina

My husband was in stage IV also he was so stronge for the kids and me he didnt like to be waited on alot was always doing things for himself till the cancer made him so weak. So I know what your going thur the pain and suffering feeling like your whole world is crashing down around you. My youngest is 19 now and doing better his school really helped him with coming to grips about his fathers death. I dont know if your school offers any kind of group support for the kids but if they do it would be a great help for your childern my son an daughter both attended these group meetings. I called the school and they asked me if i was interested in sending them to the after school program and i so glad i did it help them to talk to some body there own age. Please feel free to concact me when ever you want my email is Judygkemp@yahoo.com I live in IL. dont know if your from around here if you are maybe we could get together if you want.. Gina i know how hard it is to be stronge for the kids but you need to take care of yourself too, i lost so much of myself that i was ready to end it all please if you feel that you need to talk or anything that you can email me and we can talk for as long as you need to .

Take care Judy

My love died of pneumonia,  following surgery for an agressive cancerous brain tumor.  We were trying to buy time and it didn't work.  We didn't get to radiation or chemo, he had an anemic condition that just depleted him.  He was diagnosed middle of January and died March 30, 2011.

Hi Gina, nice to hear back from you. You mentioned Phila. I am in a hotel in Philly right now. I am a caregiver for a now friend that is getting treatment at Cancer Centers of Amerca for Ovarian cancer. They are really great here. amazing care. I would recomend it to anyone. I volunteered to take her because during Harry's treatment he said he didn't know what he would do if he didn't have me with him. He felt terrible when we heard of how many people go through this alone. I have been taking her since Jan. and so far it has not been too difficult to see all the people there with all there different cancers. She seems happier that she has someone to take her and talk to and I think it is good for me to be doing it right now. Who knows maybe I will continue with others in the future. I know Harry would be happy to know that.
Please keep in touch and if you want to talk outside of here my email is mswhiz@optonline.net. Take care Jeanne