I love my Dad.

For everyone that has lost their Dad.
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  • dream moon JO B

    iv still got a lot of my dads cd s i hav he love l divo evn tho sang in italinon my dad loed thm he did

    on my dads sid we looked italin we did 

    my dad usd 2 say it funrells fow a joke we look th itaion mafia evn hid cuzen danny usd 2 say it i hop i dnt upset any 1 for sayng ths 

    my dad had sush a big sense of humer he cud mk any 1 laff evn a person it cundnt laff

    he usd 2 hav me as bad him slf if u dnt smile yore winknls will crak 

    or say som of thr alersits thngs wen he got hom after his stroke i will salwayz rembr ths 1 2 days befro he died he tld my mum u hav smthnk on u ??? my mum sasys wot?? my dad says cloths it woz 1 th full sensens he saed w out hlp 

    thn 2 mrch he gets admit 2 hspitl again but ths worsd wrd u cn imangin t deathj wrd evry 1 crls it he died 3rd mrch st 220am 

    his pstmortim 3 mnth latr woz full of bull bull sh@t it woz

    now i fnd it mor grdr 2 trust hosptlses mr thn  evr now

  • dream moon JO B

    i wisht my dad had bean hear 2 day

    i saw a masive spyder in  ltchne screamng plase dwn coz im scared of it if my dad had bean hear he wud get rid of it

    thm thngs scaree me thy do

    i no i snd lk aa cowd but thy scre me i feal lk a ltl grl scred of evry thng but thes creaply cralies scare me

  • LaDonna

    Hi everyone, just wanted to say hi. My dad died on 9/11/13 at age 63. He suffered from COPD, diabetes, congestive heart failure, and Hepatitis C. On top of that, he had been on Methadone for the last 20 years due to a heroin addiction. He was a Sgt in the Marines and served in Vietnam. He was my soul mate. He. was the only person in the world who truly understood me, even though we didn't see each other much. I hadn't seen him in 6 years when he passed, and I scraped up the money to take a train to Illinois. It was painful going through his house and his possessions...I keep having nightmares about searching for him in that house. Suddenly I'm really worried about losing my mom, too. I received a death benefit from his retirement...and I would give every cent back if I could just spend one more day with Dad.
  • Debra A. Whitemaine

    LaDonna,

    I am very sorry for your loss.  My Dad passed a little over a year ago.  Like you, I also received money from his retirement and I would give it all back to have him here again.  He was always concerned with leaving money for us and we always told him to spend it and enjoy his life.  That we wanted him here not his money.  I have also become more sensitive to my loved ones that are here and a fear of losing them.  Find what helps you cope and accept his loss, no matter if it seems strange.  Take care.

  • dream moon JO B

    sory for yore loss ladonna my dad dnt hav mush but his raf medal raf book i wud giv it bk if i cud get him bck i wud al i no it hrts so mush it dose

    i cnt so hrt wn i ge t tld 2 get ovr or foget abot him or foget abot evry i hav lost but i cnt

    i get tld im not bean fair 2 thr fealings 

  • Rae Brooke

    I lost my father 5 years ago due to cancer. I ended up taking it horribly. I've been diagnosed with borderline personality, schizoaffective, bipolar, avoidant personality, social anxiety and bulimia nervosa. Losing my father has affected me deeply, he was very important to me. We used to call each other Poopy Father and Poopy Daughter. (For some reason I'm obsessed with poop) He was always daddy waddy, and the best person in the world. :) I miss him dearly. I write him letters at least every year or more. 

  • dream moon JO B

    im so sory 4or yore loss rae i no hw u feal i lost my dad lst yr i still cnt get over lozng him 

    1 song we loved daddy kool by bonney m 2 me he wz kool he cud mk any 1 laf he wud som of funest thngs u cud hear

    i no wn he died we wote him letrs evn if my letr had a lot of spleng mistkes i admit im not grt at spelng bit it dose not mater on hear we put fotos in as well so he cud tk thm 2 heven s gates he usd 2 jk i am not gong insid thm gtes till u all cum funny thng is i belev it i do 

    i had 1 dream abot my dad oth day it flt so real it did i posted on my grp dreams but it flt real lk a body otr of xspresnes i supose i no i wil alwayz be a daddys grl 

    me my dad had a thng 4 pies esply stake pies or minse pies or sweets bt my dad lovd any thng sweet he did u cud by sweets 4 xmas my dad wud eat all bst 1s his bday wz on 26t dec so im not lkng fowerd 2 xmas again ths yr 2 nd 1 wear he is not hear

  • dream moon JO B

    all thes thngs is cumng up i sed do wit my dad wen i wz a kid or so halwean my dad wud tk me out twick or tretng wear i wud get biskits or swets of nboz thn firwrks display wen he wz ok my bday cumnnng up wish i dnt wont 2 thnk og getng old 

    thn xmas cumnn up day aftr xmas wz my dads bday 26th dec so now i fnd it hrd now its 2nd 1 wear he is not hear 

    i no befre he got realy sic he got my mum a big xmas crd he did he saed do u dre me 2 get tht crd 4 yre mum  wn he sad tht i usd 2 say i duble dre u i wz sush a daddys grl 

    we wud alwayz hav a laf t gethr we did

  • dream moon JO B

    sm tms i sea my dad in dfrnt roooms in house i no i sea him in dreams as well but smtmes i go in 2 a rooom i can feal his presens thr i can

    lk yday on my bday wish i dnt feal lk selbratng but it wz ok not lk nxt yr a big 1 for me i no not mny of us get pst 40 on my dads sid or 50 or 60 my dad wz luck 2 lst till 76 he wz 

    but a lot of us hac bad habits eat junk 2 mush or othrs smok 2 mush or drink 2 mush 

    i no w all hav bad habits i lfe its prt of lfe i no

    jo

  • dream moon JO B

    i dnt thng lozen my dad cud hrt so bad nowwwwww xmas cming uo dads bday cming up new yr cming up othr pepls pasng cmin up i dnt thmg it cud hrts as bad ths

    lst wk if my dad had bean ear he wud of bean lafing at my cat lucy  coz she lft me a ded mose at my bk door 1 she had klled i nealy stud on it if i had not hd put lite on i wud of stud on it i no wen my dad wz hear she wud alwayz leve thm wear he sat at tsbel  as mush 2 sat thrs a gift for u grandad humen

    jo

  • gramaokie

    Eleanor:  How sad to lose your dad that way when you're so young, especially happening so close to your birthday.  I can't image how much pain you've endured.  I lost my brother and my daddy 8 weeks apart 3 years ago.  I've been part of this group off and on for most of the 3 years.  This is a safe place to talk about your feelings whatever they may be.  When you don't know what to do, you can come here. Special wishes to you for comfort.  (((HUGS)))

  • dream moon JO B

    gramaokie is rht it is asafe on hear coz we can say hw we feal sory 2 loze yore dad at sush a yng age 

  • dream moon JO B

    my dad wz me my mums proter 2 dolly nw his gon i sm tms feal so scred in world tht he is not hear 2 protect us he wz very funnny he wud say mst funny thngs 

    lk 2 ths misrebl pepl lk my nanna/gran did if u dnt smile u wil crack ore fase or winkles u willl

    he wudnt of let ple say thes thgs 2 me mum if he bean hear esply me how im 2 balme for evry thng

  • dream moon JO B

    miss u dad wish u wear hear so xmas wud lk it wz bfre u wnt 

    miss u 2 mush i allwaz wz a dadddys grl

    jo

  • dream moon JO B

    mery xmas wish u woz still hear 

    jo

  • dream moon JO B

    happpy bday daddyi wish u wear still hear fr yore bday 2 day

    luv u

    jo

  • dream moon JO B

    thnx dolly my dad wud luved it he loved any thng sweet  he did thdes 2nd anvsrys seam 2 get harder ot easer thy r not 

    big hug thnx

    jo

  • dream moon JO B

    its ok dolly i luv it thnx big hug

    thnx

  • Anthea H

    I still miss him so much. Every day. It feels like every minute he is on my mind. Some days feel better than others. But sometimes I feel like I don't want to pain to go away because then I'll miss him less, like I would lose a part of him, a part of me. 

  • dream moon JO B

    sorrry abot yore loss anthea i thnk of my dad 2 all t i do its bean nealy 2 yrs in mrch i undrstand pain thng 2 coz i miss my dad 2 

    sorrry for yore loss

  • Rachel Lynn Schuler

    i lost my dad 11 years ago but sometimes it feels like yesterday, i miss him terribly and wish he could still be here....day by day and im sorry for others' losses as well...good to see you JO....see you in chat

  • dream moon JO B

    i got a emal off foto buket i i heas sm og pcs i got off foto buket

  • Elaine Crandall

    I'm not even sure where to start... I am the one who is strong for others and doesn't really talk about the hard situation. I bottle up my emotions (which come out when I drink) I don't know how to deal with my grief and am not sure whether talking to some one would help or not. I lost my father on January 24 of this year 2 days after his birthday. I was there the day before he passed and prayed that night for god to take him and end the misery. I hadn't seen him for 2 weeks. On the day of his passing I never cried till that night because I was being the "strong" one for everyone else. I get sad randomly thinking about how I will never see my father again and I know the emotions will hit me again when we bury him.

  • Debra A. Whitemaine

    Elaine,

    I am very sorry for your loss.   I found comfort in talking with others when my father passed in Sept 2012.  I did also seek counseling which was very helpful because that person is neutral and helped me to share my feelings and thoughts.  I'd say if you are feeling something let it out and cope with it.  Sometimes I feel strange when I have a moment and the tears flow and then just like that I am better.  It must be my way to cleanse my emotions.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you.  Take care.

  • dream moon JO B

    im so sory for yore loss elaine ths grp u can speak abot yore dad or add fotos on hear 

    i lots my dad 3.3.2012 i juts wish we had all met on beter way thn this i do

    me 2 bottle thngs up not as mush as usd 2 but drinkng if i drink 2 mush esply wine my gob or tears runs over top it dose 

    sorryry if im sayng wong thngs 

    jo

  • dream moon JO B

    i got htese of gliter grafics

    i juts wish we cud all say it 2 thm if thy wear still hear

  • Danny

    Miss you Dad.  A lot.

  • dream moon JO B

    i no hw u feal danny sm days i feal lk its juts hapend again 

    it least on hear i can speak abot my dad i dont get told i hav 2 foget abot him or else or get over it or else dont why thy say it 2 us 

    i dont feal lk me any ,mre i dnt 

    i no still let evry 1 treat me lk a doormat i do 

    i juts dont lk trubel i thng its why i let thm treat me lk a door mat 

  • dream moon JO B

    dad miss u not bean hear again at easter 

  • Tara Johnson

    I lost the most important man in my life, my very best friend, my father on March 18th of this year. It has been the most terrible thing I have ever been through (well one of the worst) I have no idea how to cope with this loss. Somedays I don't even want to get out of bed but have no choice because I have to take care of my 15 month old twins and my 14 year old daughter. I am so lost without my daddy and my heart is completely broken.

  • dream moon JO B

    so sorry tara for yore loss 

    i juts wish deth dint hapen

  • Debra A. Whitemaine

    Tara,

    I am so sorry for your loss.  I remember feeling the same way, lost and my heart hurt.  That was 1 1/2 yrs ago and I have grieved and accepted but still really miss him.  Recently my cat of 18 1/2 yrs passed and I am going thru the same thing again.  It hurts even more.  Just take one day at a time.  Do whatever you feel is right for you in the grieving process.  Honoring him may help you because you are doing something for him.  My thoughts and prayers.

  • dream moon JO B

    had 1 of my sad momnt 2 day saw fathers day crds in shp i did i felt sad coz i cnt get my dad a crd again 

  • Tara Johnson

    I don't know how I am gonna get through Fathers Day. I guess I will just try and do something in his honor and focus on my husband and children.

  • Debra A. Whitemaine

    Tara,

    Last year was my first Father's Day without my Dad and I believe the anticipation of the day was worse than the day itself.  My father's name was Kermit so he always had the nickname of Frog.  I found a mylar balloon shaped like a frog and put that on his grave along with Father's Day mylar balloons.  I keep a picture of him on a keychain in my vehicle.  I have fond memories of our past father's day and how we used to go for a motorcycle ride and stop to eat somewhere.  Dad just loved that.  I wish you the best with the upcoming holiday.  Take care.

  • dream moon JO B

    tara/ debbie lst 2 yrs iv let ballons offf fr my dad i no 2012 wz so hrd yr he died evn lst yr in 2013 but 2014 seams sme 

    it dont get any easy it dont

    1s it says its easy never lots any 1 we hav

    i fnd it hrd it so hrd evry tm i sea fathers day crds in a shp or adds u can get yore dad a gift 

    i wish i cud

    im sorry if im rantong 2 mush

  • Tara Johnson

    I wish I could leave something at his gravesite but he was not buried. He wished to be cremated. I may have my mother do something special around his urn or something or maybe even around the heart shaped music urn that I have some of his ashes in. I just can't believe he's gone. Everytime I go to my parents house I walk in expecting to see him in his chair and I catch myself saying "hi dad" and then I start to cry. Ugh! I hate the heart break!

  • Debra A. Whitemaine

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    Jo B, you aren't ranting.   We all deal with it differently and need to share and get our emotions out.

    Tara,  if you have a garden maybe you could plant some flowers in his memory.  I have concrete frogs on my porch.  I even have a statue of a frog on a motorcycle (Dad rode most of his life).  We recently lost our cat of 18 1/2 yrs.  He is buried on our property and I planted flowers and made him a headstone.  It is ok to talk to your Dad as if he is there because his spirit is.  I talk to my Dad a lot.  In the beginning I couldn't talk out loud to him but am able to do that now.  I even talk to the cat, lol.  As I said before just do what feel rights.  Take care.

  • dream moon JO B

    thnx debra i feal so sad i no its bean 2 yrs but we had a daddys grl bond u cud say 

    wn i wz a kid i wud follor him all over i wud never leve him alon 

    tara

    thrs a few tms iv went in 2 a room thrt i saw my dad siting i a seat radng his paper clear as day im almst nely tryn 2 hug him i just wish i cud

    my dad wz cremated 2 he wz i saw him in funrell hme day befre jis funrell i did i kissed him gd by i did 

    i speak 2 my dads foto i  do tellin him hw mush i luved him i still luv him i do

    my dad luved anmils he did my cat us 2 follor him all over she did she folors  me all over she dose evn trys 2 trip me she dose my cat usd 2 clip thru stairs if he wz gogn past she did or supris jump on him 

    evn stray cats or dogs folored him in st as well

    i no he loved balled songs he did i no 1 song he lk wz j lennon imagin he did 

    i no he us 2 lk famly get 2 gethrs he did but latly only 1s i get on y dads sde is funrelss wkes it is 

    i luv it wn i dream abot my dad evn othr famly its joind him or 1s its pst bfre him evn 1a yrs ago01%20-%20Track%201.mp3

  • dream moon JO B

    dad miss u wish u wear hear 2 day so i cud gte u a gift 2 day has bean hrd coz u r not hear i nealy u bort u r a fathrs day crd nealy bort u sweats so on not thngn u cud say

    i no i can send u a mess or gifts on hear

  • dream moon JO B

    dad miss u wish u wear still hear playng I MNT PRANKS ON US LK PRANK CALLS 2 US OR HIDNG THNGS FOR A JO KE OR SO ON OR SINGING 1 OF YORE SILLY SONGS WISH WZ SO FUNNY OR OYRE SILY DANSE WISH WZ SO FUNNY 

  • Dreama

    My dad died 9 years ago. After he did I started a group I call H.U.G.S. When he passed he told me to keep helping people so that's what I've been striving to do ever since. So, if I may here is the link to the blog. Lots of good information there I invite you to join and together we can help each other heal.

    http://heartsunitedgatherstrength.blogspot.com/

  • dream moon JO B

    my dad died 2 rs ago dreama it still dont feal real it dotn my anti it did lst mont set my mum dad up 2 gethr she did now mum will nevr be her slf again lk me feals so num again after my antis death it is me mum r so num al death wev had in lst 2 yrs so 

    i got my own dream grp on hear iv had a lot of dreams on/off of my dad othr loved 1s as well my dad us 2 say i had a ovr actve imagng he did evn in dreams i do as well

  • Dreama

    It has been the hardest loss for me so far, losing my dad and I've lost almost all my uncles but one on my dad's side. I've lost an uncle and grandmother on my mom's side plus cousins. but losing my dad has been the one that has changed me but it's even caused me to grow believe it or not.

  • dream moon JO B

    me 2  dreama  a bit of me died wn my dad died thn clse famyl it died a bit of mre me died as well bt my dads death psin will never go it will not lk my anti it died lst mnth as well my lst blood  anti i had lft died 

    iv lost cuzens as wll 1 clse cuzen steven o he wz so funny died yrs bfre my dad my dad wz lk a dad 2 him he wz my dad wz lk a grandad 2 sm of kids in famly as well 

    my dad wz not religers he wz not but he alwys tryd 2 hlp peple he did 

  • dream moon JO B

    dad miss u im dreding nov wen i trn 40 coz uv gon a lot of famly has gon so not fair

  • Danny

    Dad supported me a lot too but it was so hard to see him struggle in his later years.  Its tough to see someone with a strong personality struggle and I realize it only now..some of the grief is delayed.

  • dream moon JO B

  • David Earl Moss

    My dad has only been deceased for 2 weeks and everytime i cry i feel his arm around me as if he is trying to guide me in the right direction in my life i feel him telling me he is proud of me but i feel like i have failed him i dont know what to do someone please talk to me

  • Danny

    Take it slowly David we are with you.  I think your Dad will always be with you in some way.