@Pat I am sorry you had a rough day!!....I wish there was something I could have done to help you today!!....I know its rough....Things happen to us and the one person that we always turned to is not here so we get more out of control....When you think about we really should be sad or mad or even happy.....I fell like we should be blah, nothing......I shouldnt be happy he is in heaven and not here....I shouldnt be mad because its not his fault....and I shouldnt be sad because he wouldnt want me to be so what can I be.....But then I think about this how would I want someone to feel if I passed....I would want them to be happy....Thats when I smile and think just for you dad I will....It helps to do things just for them!!!...I hope you get better and do better!!!!

Well today is an easy day...but tonight it might get rogh but I hope everyone is doing well i worry about you guys when I havent heard fromn you....I hope faith is keeping you guys sane...Its hard but I know that its what my dad would have wanted...I met a guy and he reminds me of my dad and he has diebetes like my dad...I know I want my dad back is that why I get really sad when I dont hear back form this guy!!!...IDK...I do know that no matter what I need to keep my faith...Hope you guys are good!!

i am here, been busy with my dad's affairs. finalizing with my sister and aunt on what to do with the reminder of his stuff. I has been hard the past week. I still shake my head and think this is all a nightmare. I called my dad on my cell twice not thinking about it and was wanting to share my dad with him and didnt realize it until the phone rang no service. I am on antidepressants and increased my dosage and been taking some sleeping pills. I am also dealing with my best friends moving away. They have been such a support to me during this time. Buy groceries, taking my kids, making me dinner and just hanging out. I am really going to miss that. So i am preparing for some rough days, but we will see. Only the Lord knows. Overall, just hanging in and trying to keep busy so my mind doesn't overthink too much and i start driving myself crazy. I do miss my dad and with Father's day coming up, i am not to sure how to celebrate and don't want to leave my husband out of the celebration. So we will see. thanks for checking in. Take care & God bless ya.

@Mel I am glad to hear that you are keeping busy that seems to be the easy way for it to get easier....I am glad to hear you doing ok....I am having better luck with it....I am just glad to hear form you....let me know if you need anything!!!

I know tomorrow will be hard on everyone who has lost their father. I know I miss mine so very much. He meant the world to me. It's been a very hard 2 months since he died. Some days are easier than others. I find I am still having more hard days than easy ones. I am so tired most of the time. I know its a combination of my diabetes and depression. Pray for me please. I in turn pray for all of you. Thanks for letting me vent.

Happy Father's Day to all of the beloved dad's on this page. This website and this particular group have some of the most amazing and strong individuals I can think of. We are all made stronger by our unfortunate loses, but it still never makes it easy. God bless all of you today and I hope everyone can have some tribute to their dad today even if you do not live close enough to go to their resting place.

@Rhonda thank you for your kind words and prayers. I am very glad to have found this site after my loss. It helps to know others are going thru what I am. My prayers are with everyone on this list who I know is missing their fathers everyday as well as today.

hope you all find the strength you need. It's been strange today. Been numb and distant. I am not sure how to feel, went to church for the first time in a while and cried a lot. I think the thing i got from church today is that through all our suffering and pain, we will get much joy. I am waiting on the joy. I know my dad is in a better place and constantly reminded that by many, but the selfishness of me wants him with me too. But, regardless, I know my dad is rejoicing in heaven with our Lord and Saviour. So to all of you today, keep you chin up, cry if you need to cry, laugh if you need to laugh, and smile if you need to smile- especially as you think of all the various memories you had with your daddy. I know my daddy was a great man, i like to think of him as a coach. He coached me on many things in life, sports, friends, school, relationships, and my spritiual fitness. I do miss him dearly, but at least he cared enough to coach me all the years we had together. So whatever your dad meant to you, celebrate it, embrace it, and brag about it. Love you all and God Bless ya.

@Gabriel, thanks. I am definitely familiar with that verse. I used it in my dad's eulogy. I felt he was a tool that planted seeds in many lives. All the people my dad came in contact with knew he loved the Lord and that was his way of planting. Thank you for sharing and also a reaffirmation of what i thought about my dad. May God continue to bring you comfort and may all of us be showered with joy one day, if not already.

@ Mel thank you for saying that about your Dad. My Dad also loved the Lord and knew exactly where he was going when he died. He was not afraid to die because he knew that. So I now have a better way to think of my Dad as a planter of seeds for the Lord. Such a cool way to think of him instead of sadness all the time. This is so much more up lifting. Thanks so much. :o)

Is so hard. I don't know how I'm feeling, just numb

@ Dan, you must feel like you are quietly going crazy. Concentrating or not concentrating on nothing in particular. you are reliving flashes of memories, thousands of thoughts running thru your head. Your emotions in disarray. I lost my dad four months ago this past thursday and i am still in denial and disbelief. It has been hard but just take it moment by moment my friend. I am sorry for you loss.

@Rhonda, I understand when I first wrote here I cried...I know if it wasnt for Mel, and Pat here I would have lost my mind....@Pat I am glad your doing ok...I have kept you in my prayers the last few weeks....@Mel I am glad to see your ok, I worry when I dont hear from you!!!....@Gab YOur rigth it helps trying to not think about those memories and I know its hard but it will Help you...@Dan You have alot of people here to help you if you every need anyone!!...Just let us know...I hope to hear from you all soon!!...Keeping you all in my prayers!!!

just wanted to post this, "I will turn mourning into gladness, I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow. - Jeremiah 31:13 From laughter to tears, a cycle that repeats itself constantly, i have been battling with just moving along. 'Moving along', that's what i call it. Not that i need to get over losing my dad, but just moving, versus, staying in bed, not wanting to do nothing for myself or my family. So i tell myself to keep 'moving along'. I have received lots encouraging scriptures that joy will return, so my hope is in the Lord to fulfill His promise. So if this scripture helps you, which i hope it does, then have hope in JOY and LAUGHTER returning again. Love & God bless you all.

July 9 would have been Dad's 75 birthday. It has been a tough week trying to remember the good times and missing him so much. I love you Dad. Please God tell him for me. I do appreciate all the time I had with him. Please pray for me that I will be able to deal with this tomorrow. I am going to try and stay busy. Thanks yall for letting me once again vent. I pray that you all are ok.

@Mel Thank you so much for that. I love it and when you think about it its true ....I thank god everyday for you guys here because I dont know where I would really be....@Pat I understand my birthday is the 16th of this month...It will be the first birthday without him since he has been in my life...I dont know what I am going to with out him....I broke down the other night and I havent done that in forever....I dont know what was going on and I dont understand why he had to go so soon!!!...My house feels gloomy and lonely and quiet...I dont hear him yelling for my mom and me...I just empty sometimes and I just wish that I could have had more time with him!!!...I hope you all are doing well...Keep praying for you guys!!...Courtney

Hey all, hope things are okay with you. Been kinda of rough lately for me and my sister. REally missing our dad. Been a struggle the past week or two, but i realized that i will come thru this. REally leaning on the Lord for strength and comfort. So i hope you all are doing good, and just wanted to share, whatever you may be going thru, you will come thru it, May God give you strength and carry you in your times of need. God bless you all.

@Mel things are great here...My sister adn I have never been close but lately I am greatful...We have been talking alot more, she is going thru a rough time and now more than ever she has been nice to me...I thank god for it...I know deep inside that dad did this and that he is helping us to become close and I thankgod for it and I thank my dad!!!....I hope everyone else is as good as I am!!!

You will raise up from the ashes of grief and find each day a bit of sadness and pain has burnt away from your heart. Lean on the Lord for strength and love. Lately my sister and i are turning to each other, and becoming closer too. I know its because of my dad, his spirit, his blood, his blood runs through us and its up to us to keep him alive. Just as our ancestors give us our heritage, our parents leave us their legacy. So draw on the strength of all the teachings, instructions, and love your dad bestowed upon you. You are who you are because he decided to be a loving father that invested himself in you. Again, HOPE for better days is what will carry you thru the tough ones, as well as the Grace of our LORD! Love & God bless ya!

@Mel, I am sooo blessed to have such a knowledgeable friend such as you...I am blessed to have all that I have now...Last night for the first time in a very long time I prayed....I prayed that god would give me the strength that I needed to take care of me and my mother thru the tough times....I still have my moments and I still feel him every once in while to me thats how I know he is here....I thank god for the feeling because it gives me peace and I may cry like a baby or smile but no matter what I know that he is looking at me holding me and telling me everything is going to be alright!!!...Now more than ever I am starting to believe it!!!...So thank you Mel for always giving me your words of wisdom!!!...I am truely blessed for a friend like you!!!

I am new to all this & I am trying to find a way to help me deal with the loss of my Father. Not sure if this is where I need to be or not, I did a google and this looked like a safe and welcoming site. If I am doing this wrong, please tell me and point me in the right direction.....

@Vicki Your not in the wrong place this is one of the most easiest sites....I have been with the site for almost 7 months my dad passed away NOV of last year...I know its hard but with time the pain will ease alot of ppl say it will go away but it never does....It just eases.....I hope you will enjoy this site as much as I have I have made really good friends (MEL) (PAT)...and I am sure you will too...If you ever need anything viki just e-mail me a message I am glad to help in anyway that I can, I uderstand how it feels to feel like you have lost everything that is important to you!!.....Keeping you in my prayers!!!....Courtney!!!

Viki, i am sorry for your loss. My dad passed away March 4th. I went quietly insane for a bit. I use that term because I feel my mind was all over the place and so many thoughts and memories were constantly running through my head. I couldn't focus or concentrate and the basic functions of life were to hard to do. (getting out of bed, getting dressed, brushing my teeth, etc.) What you are going through is tough, it's tough for all of us and we hurt in many different ways. But i think the key to all this is reaching out, finding tools to help you along with this processes. I struggled, but I turned to this site, went to the doctor, i have antidepressants, and sleeping pills, but not taking them so much anymore, and i attend a griefshare group. It is a 13 week program, a video session, book and support group, i have completed it once, but i am going through it again. It really really helped me. They also offer online stuff for you too, check them out, www.griefshare.org. So as we journey through our grief and mourning, i hope you realize you are not alone, we are here and we all know the anguish that you are experiences. Isaiah 40:31, "But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not be weary, they will walk and not be faint." I will pray for your comfort, your peace of mind, and your pain my friend. Be strong in the Lord! Love & God bless ya, mel.

I am new here & am hoping that this site will help me with the healing process. I lost my Pop to cancer on 10/17/2009. THIS has been the hardest thing that I have ever had to work through - especially being a "Daddy's Girl"!

@TAB I unsderstand how you are feeling...UI lost my dad on NOV 20th 2009....It is hard but if we didnt go thru the bad things, when something good happens we wouldnt appreciate it.....I know that it seems like the world is going to end and I know how you feel....I thought my life was over and was going to end but as time came I thought about how my dad w2ould want me to celebrate him being in hevean instead of being gone!!...SO I will pray for you TAB and I hope that you get the guidece that you are looking for here!!!....In my prayers and thoughts!!....Courtney

I lost my dad two month and two days i was a daddies little girl and I dont know what I will do with out him

@Courtney - thank u so very much for ur support! It has been hard going through the grieving process - up & down the supposed stages! I am sooo very sorry for ur loss as well. There are now days that I can go w/o crying now - I consider that a victory! LOL!

@L Burleigh - praying for u & @Courtney! THe best support system is someone that has been through a similar situation sometimes!!

I hope you all are doing okay. I have been busy, just had my gall bladder removed so been resting and drugged up lately. Was thinking of my dad the other night and cried myself to sleep. I sure miss him. I still recycle the thought of him not being around. Just can't get that thru my head. The permanent separation. I so wish for all the little times we had together, running to the grocery store, running to Sonic for burgers and shakes, or just chilling on the couch watching an old western. He loved John Wayne and Clint Eastwood. I sure miss my daddy. I am up late and just thinking of all of you who feel the same void, the same heart ache. I pray that you are doing well and not so down and out. Just keep in mind you still have a life to live and your dad would have wanted you to continue. Make your mark in life, make it meaningful. Continue on your dad's legacy and help people remember the love he had. Love & God Bless you all, mel

@Tab I think you for the prayers @Mel I hope your doing alright now I was worried when you hadnt been on in a while...Well I am going to go finish work now....I hope to hear from you guys again soon and thank you all for your prayers I will return the thought!!...Wishing you all great days to come!!!

aarrrgghh! I am sooo aggravated w/ myself because I feel like I should be so much farther along than I am. I hurt everyday! I miss my Pop sooo very much that I can't just "move on" like e'one thinks I should! :( W/e I think about him or something reminds me of him - I tear up.

@Tabatha, I am sorry you feel so bad. I can relate. It's about six months, actually on this thursday. I feel heartsick. I just had surgery, got my gall bladder removed and have had pain meds, on top of my antidepressants, and sleeping pills and i still can't sleep. This week and last week were a bit rough. I cried myself to sleep a couple of times, and i stayed up til 2 or 3am, and woke up at 6ish in the morning. I feel worn out and dragging. My thoughts drift back and forth, memories mostly and some regrets that i wish I would have spent more time with my dad. I treasure all the talks we had and reflect on how wise my dad was. He was my sunshine and i just feel so lost. I am sorry i am dumping all this on you, but i just wanted to share that this whole process of grieving is a roller coaster and the ride is unpredictable. So disregard those "move on's" and just cry if you need to, be mad if you need to, whatever the moment calls for, but don't bottle it up, it doesn't help. So, i just wanted to share, even though it has been 6 months for me, i still cry like it was yesterday. I loved my dad very much and there is just no replacement for that void. The process now is just figuring out the "New Normal" and trying to live in that, not saying it's easy just the way life will be until we all are reunited in Heaven. My thoughts and prayers go out to you my friend. ((((hugs)))) Love & God bless ya, mel

@Mel - thx for ur support & words of comfort! I am taking each day step-by-step & am trying to get my heart used to the "New Normal". Thx again for listening & letting me vent!

Dad died 4 months ago today. I still miss him as much today if not more than the day he died. I know he's in a better place. He's not suffering and he's finally warm. He was always cold especially after his cancer was discovered. I know people mean well when they tell me he's in a better place. I just hate hearing it. I know also that I wouldn't want him to still be here suffering but that doesn't make me not miss him so much it hurts me to the core. I know he will always be with me especially in my heart. It just still hurts even though I know all these things. Quite a few people at our church have told me they are proud of how I am coping. But they don't see me in my private moments. They wouldn't be so proud then. All of you here know exactly what I am talking about and I am so very glad I can put my comments here and all of you will understand me and pray for me. As I do you. Thanks yet again for letting me vent. It does feel some better when I am able to do it. I am not able to get on here much due to taking care of my husband who is disabled. But I do read what yall put and get comfort when I can. Thanks again. Love and Prayers to all.

@Tab I know its hard but when it is time for you to, not move on, but to embrace the wisdom that your father has given you all those years....I know things will get better....for me going to church and spending time with my family is what makes me feel closer to him.....@MEL I know what you mean there are still times i sit and cry....I thought my whole life i dont want to live with regrets and now I only have one....and that is I didnt take enought pics with my dad!!!.....I see all these pictures with my family and friends and realize I dont hardly have any with him.....IDK what I could do to make myself feel better......@Carolyn I understand with your mom...She has her way of coping and you have yours....Its not that she has forgotten its just she wants that compainship and she doesnt know how to cope with your father not being there....Just take time and let her know that all you want is for her to be happy I promise that it will get better!!!......@PAT I am here if you ever need anyone!!!...Know that when it comes to coping it easier to talk to someone who doesnt know you very well and just have them listen to your problems.....ALSO @ CAROLYN ADD IF YOU WANT tinker4pinker for yahoo and we can talk if you need someone to talk to....LOVE YOU ALL and GOD BLESS!!!....Courtney

Hey all, hope everyone is doing good. I have been doing better. I have been having surreal moments where i am talking to my dad or dreaming that we talked as we normally did, then i snap out of it and realize he is gone. Bums me out but also feels like a hug because i can feel his presence. I get a sick feeling in my stomach but not the gut wrenching kind that i use to where i felt complete anguish. It's just a longing followed by deep sighs knowing that he is not here. On the bright side, i am coping better and still have my own conversation with him and tell him that i love him and miss him so much. So to all of you out there, i pray you are strong, i pray you feel the love of your daddy and the love of friends and family who just want to lift you up in your time of need. Keep you head up and focus on what gifts, talents, stories, legacies that your dad left you and share. Definitely pass along what a great person he was and know that he is always a part of you and lives in your heart and mind forever. God bless you all and be strong in the Lord. Mel :)

@Mel YOur such an insperation when I come and read your posts...You have made it easy on me to have the fatih I do. I know that in time things will get better.....I am so glad that your doing good...and that you are talking to your dad in your own lil way ...I have those dreams where science brings him back and he sits in the kitchen talking to me about how he worries about mom...I am the only one in my family who has dreams like that.....I have had a lot of weird things happen to me....No one else in my family has....ON the day that we buried my dad all of the kids wrote him a letter....Mine told him as long as he visited me in my dreams that I would be nice to my brother...well so far he has kept his end of the deal and I maintain mine....I am glad that you have shared you feeling MEL and so glad to have met you, and again thank you for your words and wisdom....Best wishes to you all!!!!

@Mel &@Courtney - thx for the support. It helps coming here & reading posts by you all & others. It helps to know that I am not alone!

@TAB Your welcome....I know when my dad first passed away I thought i will be ok, then I was getting worst.....I was thinking back to suicide thoughts...I was argueing with my mom all the time...I just knew that things would just get worst...so I took my first step and went to therapy and joined this site and now I am I have come to peace with my life and now I know that life is not going to come to an end when someoen dies but it is up to us to keep living and passing on the knowledge and the spirt that they have gave us we should pass forward to others....I hope you guys are doing well...and I will keep you all in my prayers!!!

@GAB I know that sometimes it hurts, and I am not going to sit here and tellyou that with time the pain goes away. The thing is with time the pain becomes easier....I know it hard to look back but when it first happen you were different than you are now.....This site this group helped me with all of my feelings....With all of my pain.....I know that if you allow it this site will do the same for you.....I am here if you ever need totake you can send me a message if you want to talk private....But Gab your dad is looking over you and saying look at my lil girl i am so proud.....GOing thru the days i think about the good times it helps me smile and get back on track on how my life is suppost to be now that my dad is gone....I know that when it first happen you felt like you couldnt bare to live anymore...I felt that too....Now I am ok with what happen...My dad has always been there for me since i was 13...He was blood but my step-dad was my dad!!!....He promised me to walk me down the aisle when ever i chose to get married...and I am graduating college in FEB. and he wont be here to see it....Now I think about it and he has the best sit in the house!!....I AM happy that he is in a great place and that he is in such a great place that he can look down on me anytime he wants...and to be honest he comes to me all the time!!....In my dreams we talk and lil things move and make sounds around the house!!!.....So take your time the pain will easy but never go away at least that is teh way I look at it!!! Take care Gab and If you need anything let me know!!!

@ Gab, sorry for your loss. this site has been helpful to me. I lost my dad this year in March and i am still experiencing a lot of firsts without him, birthdays and such. IT is hard, I am sure you know what i mean dealing with your grief for five years now. But i do think it is about surviving. By definition, 'A survivor: a person who continues to function or prosper in spite of opposition, hardship, or setbacks.' We have to choose everyday to make it another day. Our grief be can so debilitating because we feel the loss of our loved one is too great and hard to bear. But we have to remember we are survivors, our dads would want us to live life and live it to the fullest. I have said the best thing we can do for them now is keep them alive in spirit, keep their legacy alive so people will see him through you. After all his blood flows freely in you, so in essence he is with you always. When you feel weak just stop and close your eyes and think of all the wonderful memories and believe me that helps, it feels like a warm hug of comfort. I hope that helps a bit, keep choosing to live fully. This past week has been a bit sad for me, my sister's birthday was Oct. 4. So we both missed him alot, he was the first to always call and sign his special birthday song to us. So we talked a lot about him this week. But i did realize that i do feel the void, however, i am not depressed, or complete anguish. I just have the longing to hear his voice and listen about his day. One thing we both realized. My dad's death was unique. He died on March 4th. My birthday month is March and my sister's birthday 'DAY' is the 4th. So we felt that his death still was significant because he still shares our birthdays with us. So it is little things like this that remind you he is still around, and i thank God that my dad was saved. My church friends and grief share group were too great support groups for me outside of this online group. So, if anything else that i can say to help you, it would be look into GRIEFSHARE.ORG I will keep you in my prayers. Love & God bless you.

@Mel....You always know what to say....I am blessed to get one here and know that you are doing good...I miss hearing form you ....@Gab......I hope that this site, mel, and I have helped you because we are always there when you need us!!....I will keep you all in my prayers!!!..Hope you all are doing good!!

I lost my dad, Aug. 16, 2010 and it seems like yesterday. I think of him everyday and the last days we spent together. He would have been 90 on Sept. 14, we decided to have an early birthday party for him and my mother, she will be 80 in November. Over the last few years dad's health had been failing, he had a bout with liver cancer and had treatments for that and got a clean bill of health. For the last year he had been losing blood and they could not find out where it was coming from. On Aug. 14, we had the party and all of dad's grandchildren, great-grandchildren and great-great grandchild was there along with all of his nieces and nephews and all six of us kids. He talked with each and everyone at the party, which was well over 200. My brother, husband and I took him and mom home and on the way home he commented on how many people was there and that he knew everybody and talked with everyone. After we got them home, dad sat down in his chair and thats when things went bad. My husband and brother went back home and I stayed with them. It was like he just let go. I called my two sisters and told them to come, that I couldn't get him up and needed help. While I was waiting for them, he told my mom, I'm going now mom, goodbye. Mom didn't tell me that until after the funeral. When my sisters got there, I called the ambulance and we took him to the hospital. Most of the family was there when he passed away at 5:45 p.m. on Aug. 16. The funeral was a blurr, except for the trip out to the cemetery where my co-workers, (I work for the sheriff's dept.) had a 5 squad escort to the cemetery where there was a military service. I miss him so much, will I ever feel better? I cry every day when I think about him.

@Brenda Its hard i know.....But they say times will heal to me that is not true....Nov will be a year that my dad had passed and I think time doesnt heal it, time just eases the pain.....I think that within the first year its hard and it will continue to be hard....but after that you will feel a lil lighter because your going to ease into it....At least that is what I did and everyone has their different ways of doing it, but I do know that the first year is the hardest going thru the holidays....But its ok you have use...This to me is like an online family!!!......I know that if you need anythign anyone here would be glad to help....Keeping you in my prayers!!!

@Brenda, May God give you strength and carry you on days that you just want to lay limp in your tears! I lost my dad 7mos ago, march 4. It seems like a blur, a very surreal event in my life. One thing that sticks out in my mind is we rode to the cemetery in a Limo. Seems ironic because all my dad's life he wanted to ride in a Limo. He was disabled and hard to travel with him, but all he wanted was a limo ride, i planned on surprising him with a trip to visit me and a limo ride from the airport this year for the summer or the holidays. It didn't happen. But i remember riding in the Limo and thinking, "Wow, all my dad wanted was a limo ride and now we head out to the grave site in one. Strange, it wasn't something we planned, someone donated it to us as a gift. Just strange. So i know what your mean by the blurr.
But as for feeling better, i learned that the the motto, "time heals all wounds" is not true either. This wound is not about a physical injury or a hurt feelings. It's about a loss of life, a loved one so dear, that it inflicts anguish, causes you to be disorientated, and leaves you with numbness that pierces your soul. I don't tell you this to make you feel worse, but to let you know, that it's okay. YOu don't have to 'get over it', 'you don't have to heal', there is no set time for mourning. But in time it will not be so consuming. YOu will have your moments, rushing flood of tears at the simplest gesture, phrase, or activity. You are on a journey that humans must endure, the key is to keep moving forward. Even Jesus and his disciples grieved and mourned because of death. But still, God put us on this earth for a purpose. We can't throw in the towel. YOu must rely on Him, utter the simple words,"God help me." That is enough. Believe me, i isolated myself about 5 weeks after the funeral, it's been a battle, but i find myself leaning on the Lord a lot now.
It brings joy to my heart to read that your dad had such a special day before dying. It must have been an unexplainable feeling to be surrounded by some many people who loved him. The verse that comes to mind is, John 19:30, "...It is finished!" Just like Jesus, your dad gave up his spirit, he completed his job here on earth and surrendered to the Lord. In John 17:11, Jesus speaks of one day his believers will become one with the Lord. So now, as my dad is gone, what encourages me is that he is made perfect again. Living in a mansion in heaven waiting for ALL of us to be joined as one. Just as John 17 starts out, v.1"The HOUR has come.", v4 "I have finished the work..." That is the declaration your dad made to your mom. He was ready, he was loved, he was overjoyed by the showering and outpouring of love and exalted by such a legacy of people that he has/had in his life. So I encourage to keeping moving, don't give up. Just as you celebrated his life that day, continue to celebrate him, keep his legacy alive because your work here is not finished. Seek out help, not just one avenue helps, look for prayer groups, a devoted friend, counseling, medication, whatever works, but look for different avenues until you can do it on your own. I invested my time in Griefshare, go to www.griefshare.org, i have medication for sleep and panic attacks/depression, and get counseling. So don't give up my friend. One day, we will say, "It is finished." But not now, live your life, your dad would have wanted you too! God bless you!

i miss my dad - i just wanted to tell someone

me too! was listening to a voice recorded message he left me before his died. I cried and cried, my sister and I were just feeling the hurt again. Wanting to chat, sit, give him a hug. Feeling a bit bummed knowing we can't. So i feel your pain and just needed to say "I miss you dad!"

I am so glad to find this group. My father died 10/10/10. His Celebration of Life gathering is tomorrow. We were extremely close. He had a rare form of salivary gland cancer, Adenoid Cystic Carcinoma. I feel so empty without him.

sorry to hear that. My prayers will be with you and your family. I hope all the memories will bring comfort to you, i know the pain and the void. The questions that run through your head and the yearning or longing to just have your dad around is like a pulsating vibration throughout your body and mind. It just feels unreal. So, i am sorry. I know what you are feeling. I can only say, take one day at a time, or just moment by moment. I know i had to live moment by moment because anything could set me off in a crying frenzy or i could barely function, so just take moment by moment my friend. My the Lord give you strength and lift your spirit when you feel the hopelessness and just need the extra push to function. Enjoy your family and enjoy the memories they share and celebrate your dad. That is what connects you, the memories and the love. So bask in the love of your dad and feel his hugs and love from above.

today is my dad's birthday, or would have been. i woke before dawn and walked to the beach to watch the sunrise over the ocean. I prayed and cried and sang happy birthday to him. I was hurting deeply and wishing to have him here once again. After the sun came up, a bit of clouds came in and on my walk home is began to sprinkle. just a light sprinkle to moisten my face, not that is wasn't already wet from crying, but then i looked up and there was a fully arched vibrant rainbow overhead. I made me smile. I took it as a bit of love from above and that I can still celebrate my dad's birthday and reflect on the wonderful memories and special things he passed on to me. So today, I wish my dad happy birthday!! love you dad and praying you have a wonderful celebration in Heaven. hugs & kisses

I lost my Dad on Oct 31, 2010 after a brief battle with cancer. I am thankful I got to spend his last weeks with him but I miss him incredibly. Each morning it seems I have to remind myself that my best friend is gone and I wont be able to talk with him today. His Birthday is coming up on the 28th of Nov and we are having a Celebration of LIfe for him. I have a difficult time focusing as my thoughts always come back to him.